* Drs Dewasa SITOHANG * Ompu Ni SEBIRA

2011-02-05T20:33:00.000-08:00

HOLONG Mar NATUA-NATUA ( Sayang sama Orang Tua )

2009-09-05T08:04:00.000-07:00

HOLONG Mar NATUA-NATUA ( Sayang sama Orang Tua )
Ini Pengalaman Hidup ku, sewaktu Saya berumur 29 tahun ( sa,at itu sudah di karunai Anak 2 orang dan 2 tahun berikut nya lahir lah Anak si Ampudan ( Bontot ).
Sa'at itu, Amang ( Bapak ku ) masih Hidup, tetapi Inang ( Ibu ku ) sudah duluan ( Wafat ), jadi Artinya Ibu ku belum pernah merasakan Bagaimana Enaknya Hasil pencaharian ( Duit ) dari Anak nya, Inilah perasaan yg sampai sekarang belum bisa Aku penuhi utk melengkapi LINGKARAN ( 360 derajat ) Kebutuhan Hidupku.
Sa’at Itu Bapak ku ( Natua2 i ) tinggal bersama KAMI di Pekanbaru, Aku merasa Gembira masih bisa membuat Natua2 i merasakan sedikit dari hasil jerih Payah ku.
Cerita nya begini :
Kalau Aku pulang kerja, Natua2 i menunggu Saya dgn menjaga / menggendong Pahompu nya. Lama kelama an saya bertanya dalam Hati, Apakah Natua2 ku ini tidak bosan tinggal dengan KAMI? Karena Hidup nya Monotone hanya mengikuti KEBIASAAN2 yg berlaku setiap hari di Rumah KAMI a Anak nya, tanpa Mengingat atau Memperdulikan KEBIASAAN nya dahulu?
Aku mencoba mengajak / mebawa Natua2 ku ini makan Mie, Babi Kecap di Rumah Makan GELAS MAS di Pasar Bawah( Dulu inilah Rumah Makan Favorit Orang Cina & Batak) di Pekan Baru, dengan Kantong Pas2 an. Memang Hidangan itu di makan nya, tetapi Aku bisa lihat, Beliau tidak seberapa Puas dengan apa yg Kami Makan. Memang sewaktu Saya Tanya, bagaimana Rasanya, Amang menjawab “ TABO “ do ( enak ) ?, tetapi Aku sebagai Anak nya dapat merasakan bahwa beliau tak begitu puas, tetapi belum seperti apa yg di hatinya ( Mudar do na mangkatai, alana Mudar Na do na turun / mengalir tu Ahu ).
Lama Juga Saya mengenang, Apa2 dulu KESUKAAN orang Tua ini, baru Aku ingat bahwa Beliau kerjanya dahulu Jual Beli Hewan ( Kerbau , Sapi dan Kuda ) di Sidikalang, berarti Beliau menginginkan Makan Daging setiap hari. Toh Juga Aku Lihat, Bapak ku itu belum begitu Puas. Semakin Saya mengingat Kebiasaan nya atau Apa yg di sukai Natua2ku, semakin teringat, Bahwa Beliau SUKA MINUM TUAK, pada hal Saya sendiri TIDAK SUKA minum Tuak.
Dekat Rumah atau tidak seberapa Jauh dari Rumah, Dahulu ada Kedai TUAK di Jl Hang Tuah Pekanbaru, Kedai milik Marga Sianipar, sepulang kerja ,Saya antar Natua2 i kesana naik Kereta TRAIL ku utk Minum TUAK, dan Saya Tanya Jam berapa di jemput balik, katanya sekitar 1 s/d 1 ½ jam an lah.
Sa’at nya tiba, Aku Jemput Natua2 i dari Kedai Tuak, dan sesudah Sampai di Rumah, Aku Tanya mengenai PERASAAN nya, Beliau Merasa GEMBIRA dan PUAS sekali, karena Beliau dapat merasakan / mencicipi Kebiasaan nya dan Kesukaan nya, dan yg paling membuat Beliau merasa Senang dan Gembira, Beliau BISA ketemu dengan KELUARGA HALAK HITA BATAK, berceritra dari mana asalnya, marga apa, Pengalaman2 masa lalu dohot angka na asing mengenai Paradat on, juga yg lain2.
Setiap sore hari, Aku antar Orangtuaku itu ke Kedai Tuak SIANIPAR ini,Bapakku Ceritra bahwa begitu banyak Beliau Kenal, dan disebut semua Namanya, Tutur nya, Kampung nya, Marga Nya, dll sampai2 AKU Merasakan KALAH jika di banding dgn BELIAU mengenai DAYA INGAT nya atas SEMUA apa yg Beliau Ceritrakan. Ini Memotivasi Saya, Berarti harus bisa Saya seperti Beliau utk MENGINGAT.

Kenangan ITU hanya tinggal KENANGAN, karena BAPAK ku tercinta sudah MENGHADAP / DIPANGGIL TUHAN tahun 1982 sebelum Anak ku si AMPUDAN lahir tahun 1983, dan BELUM SEMPAT banyak Merasakan hasil Jerih Payah ku.
Kami di karunai Anak 3 Orang, AGUSTINA, CHANDRA dan LARRYVO , Hela RAMSES TAMBA dan baru satu orang Pahompu si SEBIRA yg begitu KAMI Sayangi dan MEREKA juga Menyayangi KAMI, Mudah2 an Anak Kami LAKI2 / Lajang cepat dapat Jodoh dan dikarunai Anak, supaya semakin lengkaplah REZEKI / PASU2 dari TUHAN melalui sude NATUA2 nami. DAN Mereka ( Anak2 Kami ), KAMI harapkan juga MENGERTI akan PERASAAN Technical KNOW & HOW to OCCUPY, about What their Parents’ NEEDS / DEMANDS.
Dari Pengalaman ini, ada yg di PESANKAN dari segi MARKETING TECHNIQUES / Teknik Pemasaran, bahwa HOLONG MARNATUA2 itu, mengajarkan KITA utk Mengetahui :
Memuaskan CONSUMERS ( Pembeli,Teman, Orang Tua, Famili dll ), apakah itu di bidang PEREKONOMIAN / BISNIS, atau PERSAHABATAN, bukan tergantung dari BIAYA yg DIKELUARKAN , karena Biaya utk MINUM TUAK jauh LEBIH KECIL di bandingkan dengan Biaya MAKAN MIE dan BABI KECAP, Tetapi MARGINAL UTILITY nya JAUH LEBIH BESAR, yg perlu KITA tahu / MENGERTI akan KEBUTUHAN / KEBIASAAN CONSUMERS.

Sai Anggiat Ma SONANG HO AMANG & INANG di JOLO / LAMBUNG Ni TUHAN i, di SURGO HASONANGAN i

Pekanbaru 10 May 2009.
Drs Dewasa SITOHANG & Adelina Hutabarat ( Ompu Ni SEBIRA

” MASIPASANGAPAN ” or Mutual RESPECT & HONORING.

2009-09-05T06:40:00.000-07:00

Saturday. September 05, 2009

” M A S I PA S A N G A P A N ” Mutual Respect & Honoring

Di Adat BATAK , ada DALIHAN NATOLU :

1. SOMBA Mar HULA2…< Pihak Marga / FAM dari Istri, Nenek..etc)
2. MANAT Mar DONGAN SABUTUHA….<>
3. ELEK Mar BORU….< Marga2 / FAM lain yg menikah dgn Anak Perempuan Owner >

Dari Dalihan Na Tolu ini, Ada Kesimpulan :
Setiap Orang ( Individu ) Wong BATAK akan mempunyai 3 Posisi ( Kedudukan ) secara bergantian, tergantung siapa / MARGA yang punya ( OWNER ) dari ULAON ( Pesta ) untuk MASIPASANGAPAN ( Saling MENGHORMATI …Mutual Respect…Mutual Honoring).

Setiap Orang / Individu pernah Jadi :
Ø Hula2 ( TULANG)…..Mangalean Pasu2, sebenarnya Pasu2 asal nya dari TUHAN.
Ø Dongan Sabutuha ( Se MARGA )… Dongan Masisungkunan / Mewakili , Manolopi..dst
Ø Boru ( Mengikuti MARGA ISTRI / MAMA / OMPUNG BORU ..dst ). Mangurupi Materil &

Immateril ( GOGO… seperti membantu HULA2 utk mengurusi keperluan Pesta dari

Persiapan , Kerjaan di hari ” H ” nya, sampai selesai …Pokok nya BORU ini yang paling

sibuk KERJA….Juga MANUMPAKI….)

Yang menjadi sungkun2 ( Pertanyaan ), Bagaimana DALIHAN NATOLU ini bisa Jadi ADA ?
Di Suku BATAK ada Pembahagian TUGAS yang Jelas, Secara ber ganti2 an mempunyai TUGAS Sendiri, Sehingga se Seorang itu TIDAK TERUS SETIAP SA’AT Menjadi HULA2, DONGAN SABUTUHA, atau BORU, artinya Job Description nya ber beda2 sesuai dgn Posisinya di setiap Pesta ( Ulaon ), dan……

Sungguh Teratur / Tertib………TABO nai….ate Gabe Halak BATAK!!!

Memang Trias Politika ada :
Ø Excecutive
Ø Judicative
Ø Legislative

Tetapi Ndak pernah Job Description nya Ber ganti2 an, dikaitkan dengan Ulaon / Tugas / Rapat yang di adakan, …. Molo Nungnga BOSS… Jadi…BOSS lah TERUSSSSSSSS…., Sehingga terjadi KESOMBONGAN atau Penyimpangan / Penyalah gunaan TUGAS….didok è
….AHU do mangatur NEGARA on…… ISE ..IBANA ..HU..RO..RO.HA ??
Karena Menurut MEREKA??…Benar…..( seperti yang anda Maksud). Terjadilah Pemaksaan Kehendak….Korupsi….KKN……Family sesudah jadi Orang Besar ( Ber Family Gara2… Duit.. Project..lah…dll ). Ndang MASIPASANGAPAN be.

MASIPASANGAPAN Di Negara disebut Semua Orang ( Individu ) Mempunya Hak yg Sama ( Equal Rights )… sekarang istilah Keeren nya …HAM…, Tetapi Kenyataan .. ndak Tahulah. Kalau dari satu Golongan kena Tindas … HAM… Maju…Mudah2an HAM adil utk membela Hak Azasi Manusia. Pernah Saya lihat di TV, se orang Polisi ditendang sama Orang yg DEMO… Apakah …HAM..( Hak Azasi Manuasia ) Membela Hak dari Polisi tsb ??…….Saya ndak tahu jelas lanjutan nya.
( Kalau ada yg sudah Tahu, Tolong di …share ..lah )

MASIPASANGAPAN di Faham KOMUNIS, Berdiri sama Tinggi Duduk Sama Rendah… Apa ya..a..a?? Mana Mungkin sama Tinggi , Orang yg Tinggi.. dengan… yg Rendah??…Jujur saja.. tujuan nya sama dgn Theory BOURJUIS
Yang KAYA sama / berkawan dgn Golongan dgn yg KAYA, yg MISKIN sama / berkawan dgn Golongan dgn yg MISKIN.

Sarupa mai tu / sama Hal nya dgn PARJUJI ( Penjudi )
Molo Monang, sude Mandok……. LAE..E..E.. No 1….JAGO an …..HEBAT
( Si TOLOPI na Monang )
Molo Talu, Sude mandok …..LAE…LAE..E…E..E Kurang Konsentrasi & Teliti...

( Mambursikkon Natalu )

Ido prinsip ni Paham ni songon on, jala memang GODANG kenyataan do i di KEHIDUPAN se hari2 (…. ndang Sude…tahe Mngiada Jolma na do ) .

Di Agama juga disebut :
MASIPASANGAPAN………Hormatilah Sesama MU seperti Diri Mu Sendiri.

Alai di partegas hon do jala dipasingot do di Agama,

molo PASANGAPHON NATUA-TUANTA………………….. ( NATORAS..di artikan ORANG TUA Kita…Apakah bisa juga yang artinya YANG LEBIH TUA….Saya kurang tahu…)

Di Patik Palimahon …….
Ingkon Pasangapon Mu do Na TORAS Mu, Asa Mar TUA Ho……….Di tano nanilehon i TUHAN DEBATA di Ho.

Hormatilah BAPAK IBU ( ORANG TUA ) MU, Agar Hidup Mu SUKSES… Di Tempat yang TUHAN sediakan Bagi Mu )

Sesudah PASANGAP hon ( Menghormati ) ORANG TUA & TUHAN Kita..Pasti dapat PASU2. ( Berkat & Rezeki)………………… Ada lagi pertanyaan … Sebenarnya DIMANA tempat tanah( KOTA ) yg di berikan /nanilehon ni TUHAN DEBATA di Ho……….Tano tsb……Apakah Tano KOTA Hatubuan (Kampung Halaman tempat dilahirkan), atau Tano Pangarantoan ( Tempat Merantau )…. TANO atau KOTA yg Mana…. ? Di pacocok ma tu diri Pribadi masing2.. Jala direnungkan.. Apakah tingkat kebenaran masing2 mendekati 100%. ….. Bagaimana Tingkat ………..BOHA do KEBERHASILAN KEHIDUPAN ku….???.

Di bawah ini ada rumus Mathematic ………..sebagai ILLUSTRASI

Y = f (X)

Dimana :
Ø Y di assumsikan sebagai…. è Nasib / Rezeki / Kesehatan… KEBERHASILAN….
Ø f di assumsikan sebagai ……è faktor pengali ( correction Factor )
Ø X di assumsikan sebagai …. è utk berbagai macam Hal……..

( TIDAK SAMA UTK semua INDIVIDU )

……X….Bisa itu mulai dari:
X1..adalah tempat lahir…..
X2..adalah Tamatan Sekolah Apa & darimana…
X3 adalah Kerja dimana…..
X4..adalah keturunan siapa……….
X5 Factor pernah atau tidak ME MA’AF kan……….dst ……….dst…………………………………………
X6, X7, X8…….sampai….XN.…..ber macam2 … isi sendirilah…..renungkanlah …..apa betul……….( INGAT lah SEMUA Factor “X” Mu )

Jadi Factor ME MA’AF kan itu sangat mempengaruhi Juga di di tambah Factor ” X ” yg lain MASIPASANGAPAN <>

Sesudah di evaluasi… Ya Benar… Tingkat KEHIDUPAN & KEBERHASILAN ku …………Anda SUKSES…
Lanjutannya….
Apakah Anda sudah BERTERIMAKASIH

( Memberi…Sumbangan/….Zakat / Persembahan/Bantuan) kepada Sesama Mu …atau kepada TUHAN…….Aha do Hulehon tu NATUA2 KU, tu NAMANOGU Ahu ( Si Patudu Dalan ) ???

MASIPASANGAPAN…PASANGAPHON….KEBERHASILAN.. MANDAPOT PASU2..
Pls, Your COMMENTS… FEED BACK….ARGUMENTS….DIRECTIONS…ADVICES.

Sincerely YOURS…HORAS…:
Drs Dewasa SITOHANG & Adelina Hutabarat.
Ompu Ni Sebira REVAGDA.
Jakarta. Sep 05,2009.

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Saturdy . Sep 05, 2008
TAKING a TRIP to SINGAPORE ( Jalan - Jalan )
Singapore. Dec 22, 2005

I have 3 ( three ) Childreen named :
1. AGUSTINA Vince Sultana SITOHANG ( 2nd f/ left )
2. Sutan CHANDRA Dosma SITOHANG (1st f/left )
3. LARRYVO Handrian Bounty SITOHANG (5th f/left)

They came back from Bandung to Rumbai, Pekan Baru, Riau for Christmas Season in 2005, then We all went to Singapore taking a trip ” Jalan - Jalan “ as to motivate them in achieving good results of studying in UNPAD & ITB, and also make them remembering their childhood, because They have ever gone there several times when Elementary, Junior, and Senior high schooling periods.

We lived in PEKANBARU after I had married with my Wife named ……………………..ADELINA HUTABARAT who was born in PULAU SAMBU, a small island next to SINGAPORE; so, Travelling to Singapore for her like going back to “PULANG KAMPOENG “. She always felt happy & exciting when the Ferry were crossing by the Island.

We started the life in Pekanbaru with hoping, asking , praying to GOD Assistance & Guidance for the shake of my Family, because I am an ordinary person who doesn’t have enough skill & knowledge to bear a heavy daily Load of living Cost. Actually, If You believe in GOD, HE will lead you to survive. No kinds of Problems You have & face, Let GOD help you finding the symptons How to handle & eliminate.
My Wife & I are in doubt How to bring up my childreen, sending them to School or University. We worked to gether such as to sending them to private Courses starting from 1st grade of Elementary thru 3rd grade of Senior high School. My wife has a big effort to teach or educate my childreen becoming hard & smart learners, they didn’t care about childhood needs as to playing with their Friends. My childreen are accustomed to read ” COMIC Books “ , they do like reading such even though They were student, till Now. My Wife & I always pray to GOD for the happiness & Success of my 3childreen in their Job. They , Agustina as a Dentist ( still continue learning in UI for getting Specialist or Master in Dentistry, Chandra as a Mechanical Engineer, and Larryvo as a Geologist ) finished their study mannerly, properly & timely.

Now We as parent become free of studying Cost, but still have mentally heavy Load about their Marriage, because 2 of 3 my Children are still Bachelors ( LAJANG ).

The eldest Child, Agustina, who married with ” HELA “ Ramses J Tamba , has a pretty lady Baby named …………..SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTY born on Oct 22, 2008.

In BATAK Culture, someone was born & got the name during Baptism e. g My name is DEWASA SITOHANG, The name becomes ” AMANI AGUSTINA “ as a nick Name for the Parents, My Name will be changed to be ” OMPU NI SI SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTY “ due to the birth of my grand lady ( My daughter child f/ AGUSTINA).

The Nick Name will be re changed to be ” OMPU NI ( with out SI ) If my son CHANDRA has a baby …says..His Baby name is….supposed to be …CHOVRY, My Name ” OMPU NI SI SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTI “ will be changed to ” OMPU NI CHOVRY…( without SI…); so, OMPU NISI or with out SI….in BATAK is called GRAND FATHER or GRAND MOTHER in English.

I don’t know How to say…. How big of Happiness that My Wife & I have felt & got due to the birth of our beloved grand Lady called SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTI. REVAGDA is like an accronym given by my Wife & Me :
R ==> Ramses ( Her Father Name )
E ==> En ( And )
V ==> Vince ( Her Mother Name )
AG ==> AGustina ( Her Mother Name )
D ==> Dewasa ( Her Grand Father Name )
A ==> Adelina. ( Her Grand Mother Name )

So, Her name is alike ACCRONYM or combination of her Parents Names with her Grand Mother & Father.

My Wife & I have felt so exiciting..Happiness…and also got additional fulfillness in the needs of GOD Blessing.

Thanks GOD for everything I have had so far….You may add more….I believe that GOD knows what My Wife & I want……… I Love You All such ….Like How You love Me.

Jakarta. 06 Nov 2008.
Drs Dewasa Sitohang & Adelina Hutabarat..( 15 / 6 )

Posted by Ompu Ni Si Sebira REVAGDA.

9 Ways to Make Your Relationship Last

2009-09-05T06:08:00.001-07:00

9 Ways to Make Your Relationship Last
Apply these simple tips and watch your relationship flourish in good times and bad.
By relationship expert Stacy D. Phillips for Hitched Photo: Getty Images Updated: Aug 27, 2009

As a divorce attorney, I pride myself on having saved some marriages during my 25 years in practice. I would very much like to see people work things out, if they can. I have come to realize that if couples try one or more of the following 9 suggestions, they may be able to keep their relationship from hitting the rocks in the first place.
1. Delineate "yours," "mine," and "ours."
If you have finances that should be placed in each of these three categories (for example, you have an inheritance and he has a savings account he accumulated before the marriage, and you also have a checking account to which you both contribute), have an upfront conversation about those assets and what belongs to whom. Moreover, talk about your time away from "together" activities, like he wants to bowl with the guys on Tuesday nights and you want to attend your yoga class on Wednesday. Respect these important delineations. Doing so will make the relationship stronger.
2. Carve out time to be together.
Sure, you're busy working and attending meetings, but how important are those things if your relationship falls apart? Make time to do things together that you both enjoy. This could be anything from grocery shopping to taking in a movie. Take regular vacations together -- at least a couple of long weekends and, better yet, a couple of long vacations (more than a weekend jaunt). Commit to a weekly date night and make it as unbreakable as that all-important staff meeting at work.
3. Take care of yourself.
Spend time every day on your appearance and your physical well-being. Work out regularly, eat healthy, and stay fit. Not only will your partner like looking at you, but you'll feel better about yourself.
4. Make sure communication goes both ways.
Many relationships fail because of misunderstandings. Effective communication skills are necessary if your relationship is going to survive. If there is a hint or vibe that your partner is disconnected or you are unhappy about something, do not ignore those signals or feelings. Approach your mate and suggest an open discussion. You may be frustrated, angry, or hurt and so may he or she, but always stay calm and reasonable. Your goal should be to resolve differences, and the only viable way of doing so is through open and direct communication.
5. Criticize gently.
Don't judge too harshly. If you criticize, do so in the same way you would want others to criticize you. Be kind and considerate.
6. Never stop courting one another.
Gifts, compliments, and a loving embrace go a long way, especially when they are a surprise. Send unexpected greeting cards, slap a Post-It note where you know your mate will find it, keep those flowers coming in a "just because" way. Treat your partner with the same courtesies you did when you were dating. A terrific mindset is to pretend you are trying to win your partner all over again.
7. Keep on the flame burning.
Keep your romance alive despite the chaos and craziness life can present from living in the midst of sheer reality. Resolve to offer up romantic suggestions for your partner's pleasure, even if only occasionally, like cooking her favorite meal when you know she's had an impossible day, or entice him into a bubble bath with you just for the fun of it. Little gestures like these from time to time can ensure that the flame you once had burns forever.
8. Spell out your terms of endearment.
Call out the expectations for one another in the form of the "terms" of your relationship together. Put them in a contract, if you like. This contract will simply clarify and document those needs and wants that mean a lot to you. For example, though he typically runs late, your agreement might specify those times when he agrees not to be late; she may agree to keep her spending at a certain limit, though she typically has little restraint as she traipses through the mall. Be Discussed these boundaries, as well as your needs and wants, can prevent either of you from stepping over the line and causing irritation. It is often the disappointments (needs and wants, gone unexpressed) that bring down a relationship.
9. Renegotiate your contract.
Your relationship will evolve, and your needs and wants will change right along with it. Once a year, it's a good idea to review, update, or revise your contract with each other -- whether it is verbal or written. Be mindful, however, not to allow such a "contract" to ruin your relationship.

Drs Dewasa Sitohang & Adelina Hutabarat.
Ompu Ni SEBIRA.
Jakarta. Sep 05, 2009.

9 Simple Things Women Want

2009-09-05T05:46:00.000-07:00

9 Simple Things Women Want
By YourTango.com
Photo: iStockphoto.com/© Izabela Habur Updated: Jul 30, 2009

Besides the meaning of life and the ingredients of hot dogs,
many a man has questioned, "What exactly do women want?" We're not playing coy here, we know we're complex creatures. And, true, we operate on a different wavelength than men.
But women aren't exactly the great mystery that men often make us out to be. The proof? We polled the YourTango staff and compiled a list of 9 simple things women want. Note: you won't find diamond rings or other fancy things anywhere on this list. While many women really do want luxury goods from men, when you break it down they are just physical representations of some of the points on this list. We promise.
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• 10 Dating Mindsets Sabotaging Your Love Life
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1. Respect. Show us through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies, and minds. You don't have to agree with all that we say or do, but try to honor our opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat us as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.
2. Romance.
It's another night on the couch with takeout and TiVo? Just because we're staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even after we become your wife. Date nights, physical affection in the car, kissing like when we first started dating -- all of the things that made us fall in love with you don't have to stop just because now there are bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and kids to be bathed. Bring home flowers for no reason. We're not talking $100 bouquets of roses here. Even the $10 bouquets from the supermarket are enough to make us smile.
3. Time. We understand relationships can't be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with us and treating us like your top priority says "love" more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. The realities of a 21st-century relationship are that both partners probably work. If you happen to get home before we do, why not vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry? If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you'll be getting a big ole smooch when you come back.
4. Dinner.
Of the homemade variety. You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water. But greeting us at the door after a long day with fish sticks (or whatever you can wrastle up) makes us swoon, because it shows that you've been thinking about us and our hectic day.
5. Communication.
Women are vocal creatures. We know you love us, but it's nice to hear you say it, too. We can also be insecure. We wish we weren't, but the reality is that we often notice our wobbly thighs and forget about our gorgeous eyes. So let us know when you think we're hot. Tell us we're beautiful. It helps us feel good. Words of appreciation aren't half-bad either. Tell us you love the lasagna we made. Notice that we cleaned the bathtub. It doesn't have to be over the top, just let us know that you see the effort we put in, and you're grateful.
6. Consistency.
This doesn't mean be boring and predictable. It means that we know you will (usually -- no one is perfect!) give us the love and support we need. Knowing that you're coming at this with the same desires and energy as we are goes a long way to making us feel secure.
7. Engagement.
Of the mental kind, not the "I'm getting married in the morning" kind. You don't have to like everything we like (we might be a little concerned if you do), but showing interest in our passions, be it career-related, a sport, or a hobby, goes a long way. Listen when we talk to you. We're not speaking just so we can hear our own voice; we want to connect with you and this is one valuable way we do this. This also means paying attention to the little things. Whether it's the name of your best friend's husband or the fact that you hate Nicolas Cage movies, it's the little things you remember about us that's so endearing.
8. Humor and Humility.
These two tend to go hand in hand. This doesn't mean that you have to crack jokes or entertain us, but just being able to laugh at yourself is enough. Guys who take themselves too seriously bring everyone down.
9. Challenge.
Not the kind that makes a relationship constant work, but the good kind that surprises and motivates us to do, be, or achieve what we desire. Studies show that partners who prod each other to meet goals -- in other words, don't support lazy or bad habits -- are ultimately happier than those who don't hold each other accountable.

Drs Dewasa Sitohang & Adelina Hutabarat
Ompu Ni SEBIRA
Jakarta. Sep 05, 2009

How to De-Fang a Toxic Boss

2009-08-04T18:02:00.000-07:00

How to De-Fang a Toxic Boss

By Richard S. Gallagher

How many people out there hate their bosses? And how many have the luxury of simply voting with their feet, and leaving? Everyone faces a toxic boss at some point in their career and must quickly learn how to de-fang.
Toxic bosses are often energy vampires who drain our morale, creativity and productivity. Ironically, they often feel they are doing the right thing in the process. So when you react to them, you get dragged into a tug-of-war that too often leads to a one-way ticket out the door. It's a lose-lose situation for everyone.
At the same time, the right communications skills can provide a great antidote to these toxic bosses. Here's how:
Learn how your boss sees the world. Does your boss go to bed every night dreaming of new ways to be mean and cruel? If he does, it's time to leave, however, the reality is that most toxic bosses simply have a warped view of managing people. What you see as criticism, they see as "holding people accountable." What you see as politics, they see as "motivating people to perform." And what you think is pointless nastiness is, in their mind, "avoiding a country-club atmosphere where people slack off."
So how do you learn what's behind their snarkiness? Simple: You ask them. Here are some examples of questions you might use:
- "What would the ideal department look like for you?"
- "What kinds of things frustrate you about our team?"
- "What would be the single biggest thing I could do better this year?"
Validate the boss's view of the world. This part feels like sucking on a lemon for most people, but it is the key to changing your boss's toxic behavior. (When was the last time you responded positively to criticism?) Here you are not out to agree with your boss or "kiss up" to her. Your goal is to make it clear you understand her, so that she will then listen to you. Try these on for size:
Tillie Toxic: "I wish people would stop slacking off and get to work around here."
You: "Good point, it is frustrating when people don't perform like you wish they did."
Peter Picky: "You never do this task right."
You: "I don't want you to settle for less than the best. Let's discuss this."
Does it feel funny to say things like these to a boss who acts like Darth Vader? Of course it does. But when you say them, you accomplish something extremely valuable: You create a safe space to start talking about changing the boss's intimidating ways.
Offer an alternative. Here is where you close in for the kill. Offer your boss what he wants, while presenting him with a neutral, factual way to get there -- by treating you better! Here's one example:
"I want to give you everything you want in the future. At the same time, I find it difficult to do that when I am constantly criticized. It makes it harder for me to do my best. Where could we go from here?"
Now you are in productive dialogue, and can start negotiating a win-win solution as adults. Remember that you have to use facts and not feelings here. Telling your boss to "share performance expectations" or "talk to me first before you criticize my work" is OK, but asking him to "stop being a jerk" is provocative, not to mention unclear.
With the right words, you can often achieve what seems impossible: Get your toxic boss to change, using a painless conversation that never puts him or her on the defensive. In the process, you will gain interpersonal and leadership skills that will stick with you for the rest of your life.
Richard S. Gallagher is a nationally-known expert on how to communicate in difficult situations and the author of "How to Tell Anyone Anything: Breakthrough Techniques for Handling Difficult Conversations at Work" (AMACOM 2009).
Copyright 2009 Richard S. Gallagher. All rights reserved. The information contained in this article may not be published, broadcast or otherwise distributed without prior written authority.

Story Filed Wednesday, Aug 05, 2009 -07:53 PM
Drs Dewasa Sitohang & Adelina Hutabarat
Jakarta

Turunkan Bobot Tubuh dengan Alpukat

2009-07-20T22:33:00.000-07:00

Turunkan Bobot Tubuh dengan Alpukat
Selasa, 21 Juli 2009 - 12:00 wib
Adhini Amaliafitri - Okezone

Foto: Istimewa
ALPUKAT merupakan buah yang sangat enak, namun wajib dihindari jika tengah berdiet, sebab buah ini kaya lemak. Padahal, lemak alpukat termasuk lemak sehat yang ampuh menurunkan bobot tubuh. Benarkah?

Seperti dikutip dari Health24, Selasa (21/7/2009), Potchefstroom Institute of Nutrition di Potchefstroom University menemukan fakta mengejutkan, alpukat dapat memperlancar penurunan bobot tubuh seseorang.

Bertentangan dengn mitos yang ada, ternyata alpukat bebas kolesterol. Meskipun mengandung kandungan lemak yang tinggi, namun lemak di dalam alpukat kebanyakan mengandung monounsaturated. Di mana monounsaturated bermanfaat untuk kesehatan jantung.
Lemak mononunsaturated dapat menurunkan LDL (kolesterol jahat), dan menaikan kadar HDL (kolesterol baik) di dalam tubuh seseorang.

Fakta menyebutkan, lemak monounsaturated di dalam makanan dapat menurunkan kadar triglyceride. Selain itu, mengandung lutein yang bermanfaat untuk penglihatan mata. Alpukat juga kaya akan vitamine E, yang mengandung banyak antioksidan guna mencegah radikal bebas.

Kandungan beta-sitosterol pada alpukat juga berfungsi sebagai anti-cholesterol yang dapat melindungi tubuh untuk mengendalikan kolesterol.

Karena itu, bagi Anda yang tengah berdiet, tidak usah takut mengonsumsi alpukat. Sebab alpukat kaya akan phytosterols yang dapat menurunkan kadar kolesterol dalam darah.

Untuk Anda yang ingin mengonsumsi alpukat, akan lebih baik jika menikmatinya tanpa tambahan apapun. Dengan mengonsumsi buahnya saja dijamin tidak ada kandungan gula di dalamnya, dibandingkan bila Anda mencampurnya dengan susu atau air gula.(nsa)

Biography of SUSILO BAMBANG YUDHOYONO

2009-07-10T05:00:00.000-07:00

BIOGRAPHY:
Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono
General (Ret.) Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono (born September 9th, 1949), is an Indonesian retired military general and the sixth President of Indonesia. Yudhoyono won the presidency in September 2004 in the second round of the Indonesian presidential election, in which he defeated incumbent President Megawati Sukarnoputri. He was sworn into office on October 20 2004, together with Jusuf Kalla as Vice President. Javanese do not have surnames in the Western sense [1]. The name Yudhoyono was not inherited either from his father or his mother. While Susilo Bambang uses Yudhoyono in naming his children, it is not a descended family surname. In Indonesia, he is referred to in some media as Susilo and is widely known by the initials SBY. Abroad, he is referred to as Yudhoyono, a name that he chose for his military name-tag, while in formal meetings and functions he is addressed as Dr. Yudhoyono. Susilo is apparently derived from Susila in Sanskrit which in means 'well-behaved' or perhaps Sushil, which means 'one with good character'.
Contents
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1 Early life
2 Military career
3 Political career
3.1 Wahid Presidency
3.2 Megawati Presidency
3.3 The Democratic Party
3.4 Road to Presidency
4 Presidency (2004-Present)
4.1 Cabinet
4.2 Natural disasters
4.3 Terrorism
4.4 Economy
4.5 Education and health
4.6 Alleged rivalry with Kalla
4.7 Dealings with Suharto
4.8 Other
4.9 Political party
5 Family
6 Academic achievement
7 References
8 External links

Early life
Born in Pacitan, East Java on 9th September 1949, to a lower-middle class family and is the son of Raden Soekotjo, an army officer, and Siti Habibah. Since he was a child, he always wanted to be in the army.[2] His first school was Sekolah Rakyat Gadjahmada (now is SDN Baleharjo I). Yudhoyono developed a reputation as an extremely talented student in addition to being an academic achiever, excelling in writing poems, short stories, and play-acting. Yudhoyono was also talented in musics and sports, reflected when he and his friends established a volleyball club called "Klub Rajawali" and a band called "Gaya Teruna"[3]. Music became a hobby for Yudhoyono and he often sang one of his favorite songs, "Pelangi di Matamu" during his presidential [4] When he was in 5th grade, Yudhoyono visited the National Military Academy (AMN) at Magelang. After seeing the soldiers training there and perhaps inspired by his own father's career, Yudhoyono became determined to join ABRI and become a soldier. Yudhoyono had originally wanted to get into the ABRI Academy (Akabri) after graduating from high school in 1968, however, he missed out because he did not register in time.[5] Yudhoyono then became a student at the Sepuluh November Institute of Technology (ITS) before entering the Teachers Education School in Malang, East Java. There, he was able to prepare everything for his next education at Akabri. Yudhoyono officially entered Akabri in 1970 after he passed the test which took place in Bandung, West Java.[6]
Military career
Yudhoyono spent three years at Akabri (Academy of Indonesian Armed Forces) and became the Commander of the Cadet Corps Division there. He graduated from Akabri in 1973, and as the best graduate of the year, received the prestigious Adhi Makayasa Medal from President Suharto. After graduating, Yudhoyono joined Kostrad and became a platoon Commander in the 330 Airborne Battalion. Aside from leading his troops, Yudhoyono also received the task of giving the Battalion soldiers lessons on general knowledge and English. Yudhoyono's proficiency in English was one of the reasons why he was sent to the United States to undertake the Airborne and Ranger Course at Fort Benning in 1975. Yudhoyono returned to Indonesia in 1976 where he became a platoon Commander in the 305 Battalion and assigned to East Timor. Yudhoyono had several tours of duty there since and, like many other Indonesian officers involved in the occupation of East Timor, was accused of committing war crimes. However, Yudhoyono has never been charged with any specific act. From East Timor, Yudhoyono became a Mortar platoon commander (1977), an Operations Officer for an Airborne Brigade (1977-1978), and Battalion Commander (1979-1981) at Kostrad. Yudhoyono then spent 1981 and 1982 working at the Army Headquarters. Whilst working at the Army Headquarters, Yudhoyono was sent to the United States again, this time to participate in the Infantry Officer Advanced Course at Fort Benning and in the On The Job Training with the 82nd Airborne Division. Yudhoyono also spent time at Panama and went through the jungle warfare school. When Yudhoyono returned in 1983, he was made Commander of the Infantry Trainers' School. It was not long before he was abroad again this time to Belgium and West Germany to undertake the Antitank weapons Course. In 1985, Yudhoyono also took a Battalion Commando Course in Malaysia. From 1986-1988, Yudhoyono served at KODAM IX/Udayana which looked after the security of Bali and the smaller Sunda Islands. Yudhoyono was Batalion Commander from 1986-1988 and was part of the Operational Staff in 1988. In 1989, Yudhoyono became a lecturer at the Army Staff College (Seskoad) and delivered a presentation entitled "ABRI's Professionalism at the Present and in the Future". Together with Agus Wirahadikusumah, Yudhoyono published a book entitled "The Challenges of Development". As a lecturer, Yudhoyono also began to experiment with the concept of democracy. Whilst at Seskoad, Yudhoyono also took the opportunity to further his own military education. He went to the US Army Command and General Staff College at Fort Leavenworth, Kansas. While at the United States, he also took the opportunity to get an MA in business management from Webster University in 1991. In 1992, Yudhoyono was transferred to the Army Information Department and worked as a speech writer for General Edi Sudrajat, the Army Chief of Staff. In 1993, when Edi became ABRI Commander, Yudhoyono became the Coordinator Edi's personal staff. Edi did not last long as ABRI Commander and Yudhoyono was then transferred back to Kostrad where he became a Brigade Commander. A year later, Yudhoyono was the Operations Assistant at KODAM Jaya before becoming a Military Resort Commander (KOREM) at KODAM IV/Diponegoro in Central Java. Yudhoyono had one more stint overseas when he became Indonesia's Chief Military Observer of United Nation Peacekeeping Force in Bosnia in 1995-96. When Yudhoyono returned to Indonesia, he was made KODAM Jaya Chief of Staff before being appointed as KODAM II/Sriwijaya Commander. In this position, Yudhoyono was responsible for the security of the southern provinces of Sumatra. He served in this position until 1997, when he was appointed Chief of Staff for Social Political Affairs. At the same time, he was also appointed Chairman of the ABRI Faction at the 1998 People's Consultative Assembly (MPR) General Session and participated in Suharto's election to a 7th term as President. During the days which would lead to Suharto's fall in May, Yudhoyono and pro-reform ABRI officers conducted meetings and discussions with Nurcholish Madjid, a secular pro-reform Muslim leader. From his discussions, Yudhoyono accepted to the fact that Suharto should resign but like the ABRI officers who went to the meeting with him, was reluctant to withdraw their support of Suharto publicly much less ask for Suharto's resignation.[7] Nevertheless the pressure would eventually become too much for Suharto, who resigned on 21 May 1998. As Indonesia entered the reform period, ABRI's popularity, because of its association with Suharto, was at an all time low. Nevertheless, ABRI undertook reform much like all the other aspects of Indonesian society. To de-emphasize ABRI's political role, Yudhoyono's Chief of Staff for Social Political Affairs was renamed Chief of Staff for Territorial Affairs and in 1999, ABRI would be separated into TNI and the Republic of Indonesia Police (Polri). At this time, Yudhoyono's popularity began to increase as he offered ideas and concepts to reform the military and nation. He did this by combining the strong reformist sentiment of the time with TNI's concern for security and stability.[8] Yudhoyono then became known in the media as "The Thinking General".
Political career
Wahid Presidency
Yudhoyono was appointed Mines and Energy Minister in the government of President Abdurrahman Wahid in 1999. According to General Wiranto who assisted Wahid in the formation of the Cabinet, he had recommended to the President that Yudhoyono would do better as Army Chief of Staff.[9] However, Wahid rejected the idea and Yudhoyono became the Minister of Mines and Energy instead. At the same time, Yudhoyono ended his military career with the rank of Lieutenant General, although he would be made honorary General in 2000. Yudhoyono's popularity grew, even as Minister of Mines and Energy. In June 2000, there were talks that Wahid, because of his lack of skill as an administrator was going to appoint a First Minister to look after the day to day running of the Government.[10] Yudhoyono's name appeared as a potential candidate for the position, although this never came true with Wahid appointing Vice President Megawati Sukarnoputri as the day to day administrator. In August 2000, after a Cabinet reshuffle, Yudhoyono became the Coordinating Minister for Politics and Security. One of his tasks was to get the army out of politics. This is in line with his reformist ideas on the future of Indonesian military, and is a view he has held since his days in an army policy center. "Since 1998, the military has decided to stay out of day-to-day politics," he said at that time. "The basic idea of military reform is to go back to the role and function of the military as a defense force and move them away from politics systematically. The trend is moving in such a way that there is no so-called 'dual function' of the military, there is no so-called social political mission in the military." Another task that Yudhoyono was given was as an intermediary between Wahid and the Suharto family. At the time, Wahid was trying to get Suharto to hand back all the money which he had gotten through corruption when he was the President. Yudhoyono was sent by Wahid to convey this wish and to negotiate with them. However, Yudhoyono was not successful in this venture. In the beginning of 2001, with political pressure increasing on him, Wahid ordered Yudhoyono to form a Crisis Centre with Yudhoyono as Chairman[11] The purpose of this Crisis Centre was to assist the President in giving policy advice and was headquartered at Yudhoyono's office. It seemed as if because of this appointment, Yudhoyono could be considered one of Wahid's men, however Yudhoyono would break ranks from Wahid in July 2001 when the latter was facing impeachment. In desperation, Wahid issued a decree freezing the People's Representative Council (DPR) and then asked Yudhoyono to declare a state of emergency to further strengthen his position. Yudhoyono refused to accept this, and Wahid dismissed him.[12] This gave him a new reputation for liberalism. Given Wahid's physical incapacity, Yudhoyono was seen as the dominant figure in the Wahid government.[13]
Megawati Presidency
It was not long after Yudhoyono broke ranks with him that Wahid's fate was sealed. On 23rd July 2001, in a Special Session, the MPR impeached Wahid and replaced him with Megawati as President. A couple of days later when the MPR assembled to elect a new Vice President, Yudhoyono threw his name in the hat and competed against Golkar's Akbar Tanjung and United Development Party's (PPP) Hamzah Haz.[14] Yudhoyono and Akbar lost out to Hamzah who became the Vice President. Yudhoyono was appointed to his old position of Coordinating Minister of Politics and Security in Megawati's new Cabinet. After the October 2002 Bali bombing, he oversaw the hunt for and arrest of those responsible, and gained a reputation both in Indonesia and abroad as one of the few Indonesian politicians serious about the War on Terrorism. His speech during the one year anniversary of the Bali bombing (in which many Australians were killed) was praised by the Australian media and public.[12] Yudhoyono also dealt with the Free Aceh Movement (GAM), a separatist movement wanting to separate the Province of Aceh from Indonesia. On his advice, Megawati declared martial law in Aceh on 19th May 2003. This martial law was then extended in November 2003[15]
The Democratic Party
Yudhoyono's supporters saw Yudhoyono's participation in the Vice Presidential election as a sign of his popularity and recognized Yudhoyono's potential as a possible leader for Indonesia. One of these supporters, Vence Rumangkang approached Yudhoyono with the idea of forming a political party to help shore up support for the 2004 Presidential Elections. Yudhoyono approved of the idea and after going the basic concepts left Rumangkang in charge of forming the Party. From 12th-19 August 2001, Rumangkang began holding a series meetings to discuss the formation of the Party while holding consultations with Yudhoyono who was now serving as the Coordinating Minister for Politics and Security. Yudhoyono personally led the meeting on 19 August and on the 20 August 2001, the basic outline of the (PD) was finalized. On 9 September 2001, the formation of PD was officially declared and on 10 September 2001, it was enlisted at the Ministry of Justice and Human Rights. The organizers behind PD's formation went to extreme lengths to make sure that PD was Yudhoyono's personal political party. The declaration of its formation was 9 September 2001, which was Yudhoyono's birthday and to start off with, the Party had 99 members.
Road to Presidency
By 2003 there was a gathering momentum behind the possibility of Yudhoyono being a Presidential Candidate[16] The National Democratic Union Party (PPDK) was the first to bring up the subject of nomination. In September 2003, Yudhoyono's own PD began to make preparations in the case that Yudhoyono was willing to accept a Presidential nomination. PD then initiated a publicity campaign to promote Yudhoyono as a candidate. For his part, Yudhoyono was not responsive both to PPDK or PD's maneuverings to nominate him and continued his duties as Minister. PPDK was disappointed to Yudhoyono's reaction and PD continued to wait for Yudhoyono to resign his position as what was expected of all Presidential candidates apart from the incumbent President and Vice President. The turning point came on 1st March 2004, when Yudhoyono's secretary, Sudi Silalahi announced to the media that for the last 6 months, Yudhoyono had been excluded from policy decision-making in the field of Politics and Security.[17] On 2 March, Megawati responded that she had never excluded Yudhoyono while her husband, Taufik Kiemas called Yudhoyono childish for complaining to the media instead of the President herself. On 8 March, Yudhoyono sent a letter asking for permission to meet the President about his ministerial authorities. Megawati did not respond when she received the letter, although she invited Yudhoyono along to a Cabinet meeting on 11 March. Yudhoyono did not attend the Cabinet meeting and instead held a press conference at his office and announced his resignation from the position of Coordinating Minister of Politics and Security. Yudhoyono also announced that he is ready to be nominated as President. Yudhoyono's popularity skyrocketed after his falling out with Megawati as he was seen by the people to be the underdog. However this popularity did not translate to a victory for PD at the 2004 Legislative Elections. There, PD won 7.5% of the votes which was still enough to nominate Yudhoyono as a Presidential candidate. Yudhoyono accepted the nomination and picked Golkar's Jusuf Kalla as his running mate. Aside from PD, their Presidential and Vice Presidential candidacy were also supported by the Crescent Star Party (PBB), Star Reform Party (PBR) and Indonesian Justice and Unity Party (PKPI)[18] Yudhoyono's manifesto for the future of Indonesia, summarised in a book titled "Vision For Change" written by him and distributed for free during the campaign, was built on four pillars: prosperity, peace, justice and democracy. At the top of his agenda was a plan for increasing economic prosperity, aiming for economic growth of at least 7% and a revival of small and medium-sized enterprises. He also put forward policies to offer better credit lines, to cut red tape, improve labor laws and to root out corruption from the top down. He told an interviewer: "If we are to reduce poverty, create jobs, increase purchasing power and rebuild infrastructure, then we will need new capital. Of course, to be able to invite investment, I have to improve the climate — legal certainties, political stability, law and order, sound tax policies, customs policies, good labor management. I will improve the guarantees to encourage investors to come to Indonesia." Yudhoyono's perceived reputation for intellectual and communication skills capabilities made him the front-runner throughout the election campaign, according to many opinion polls and the opinions of election commentators[19], a long way ahead of the other candidates (Megawati, Wiranto, Amien Rais, and Hamzah). On 5 July 2004, Yudhoyono participated in the first round of Presidential Elections coming first with 33% of the votes. However, 50% of votes are required for a new President and Vice President to be elected and this meant Yudhoyono going into a run-off against Megawati. For the run-off, Yudhoyono faced challenge from Megawati's Indonesian Democratic Party-Struggle (PDI-P), forming a National Coalition with Golkar, PPP, Prosperous Peace Party (PDS) and Indonesian National Party (PNI). Yudhoyono then declared that his coalition, which now received political support from the National Awakening Party (PKB), Prosperous Justice Party (PKS) and the National Mandate Party (PAN), would be the People's Coalition. On 20 September 2004, Yudhoyono participated in the run-off election, winning it with 60.87% of the vote. Yudhoyono was inaugurated as President on 20 October 2004.
Presidency (2004-Present)

Yudhoyono with United Nations Secretary General Ban Ki-moon
Cabinet
The day of his inauguration, Yudhoyono announced his new Cabinet, which would be known as the United Indonesia Cabinet. Consisting of 36 Ministers, it included members of PD, Golkar, PPP, PBB, PKB, PAN, PKP, and PKS. Professionals were also named in the Cabinet, most of them taking on Ministries in the Economic field. The Military were also involved, having 5 of its former members as Ministers in the Cabinet. As per Yudhoyono's promise during the election, 4 of the Cabinet Ministers are female.[20] On 6 December 2005, Yudhoyono announced a reshuffle of the Cabinet. On 7 May 2007, Yudhoyono announced another reshuffle of the Cabinet.
Natural disasters
Yudhoyono's presidency has been plagued by natural disasters. Two months after he assumed office, the 2004 Indian Ocean tsunami struck in the province of Aceh and many other countries along the Indian Ocean coastline. Three months later, an aftershock of the earthquake which triggered the tsunami occurred in Nias Island. A year later, Mount Merapi, considered to be a holy site in Javanese culture begin eruption and this was followed by an earthquake that struck Yogyakarta a month later. Two months later, there was another earthquake which triggered a mini-Tsunami that hit some parts on the south coast of West Java. Other disasters that struck Indonesia are the outbreaks of bird flu and the Sidoarjo mud flow. Many media such as newspaper and news on television has reported and brought up the subject of the connection between Yudhoyono's governance and the disasters. The latest disaster to happen under Yudhoyono's watch was the severe floods which hit Jakarta in late January 2007 and early February 2007. However, Yudhoyono managed to perform amiably during the disaster, by conducting on-the-spot inspections[21] and allowing Jakarta Governor Sutiyoso to open the Manggarai watergate with the risk of flooding the Presidential Palace[22] Recent research and studies relate the disasters which happened in his presidential era with the political stability of Indonesia. Nonetheless, the president is also involved. One study shows that the possibility of Yudhoyono being re-elected in 2009 is narrow if the pattern of the disasters continues.[23]
Terrorism
On October 1, 2005, suicide bombings occurred on the island of Bali. The attacks bear the hallmarks of the militant Islamic group Jemaah Islamiah (JI) -- a group with links to Al-Qaeda -- though the police investigation is ongoing. This group was also responsible for the 2002 Bali nightclub bombing. Yudhoyono condemned the attack, promising to "hunt down the perpetrators and bring them to justice.".[24] On 9th November 2005, police managed to locate (JI) bomb maker Azahari Husin. Husin and his assistant decided to put up a fight as police surrounded their hideout. Husin was shot dead while his assistant committed suicide by setting off his bomb vest.[25]
Economy
In 2005, the economic growth was 5.6%[26] which decreased to 5.4% in 2006[27] Inflation reached 17.11% in 2005[28] but decreased to 6.6% in 2006. In March 2005 and again in October 2005, Yudhoyono made the unpopular decision to cut fuel subsidy and increase the fuel prices by 29% and 125% respectively.[29] The increase in oil price meant that the Government had to put more money to subsidize fuel prices when it could be used in other areas such as health,education, and infrastructure building. The poor were somewhat compensated by the Direct Cash Assistance (BLT) in October but the subsidy cutting did a lot of damage to Yudhoyono's popularity when the decision was made. In January 2007, Yudhoyono announced plans to disband the Consultative Group on Indonesia (CGI).[30] Yudhoyono also allocated more funds from the State Budget in an effort to further decrease poverty. In 2004, 11 Trillion Rupiah was set aside, increasing to 23 Trillion in 2005 and 42 Trillion in 2006. For 2007, 51 Trillion has been allocated.[31]
Education and health
In July 2005, Yudhoyono launched the Schools Operational Assistance (BOS) program.[32] Under this arrangement, the Government gives money to principals to financially assist in the running of schools. Should BOS be able to provide significant financial assistance to the school then it is expected for the school to lower fees or if they are able to, abolish fees altogether. In June 2006, Yudhoyono launched Books BOS which provides funds for the purchase of textbooks.[33] In January 2005, Yudhoyono launched the Poor Community Health Insurance (Askeskin). Askeskin is a program directed for poor people which allows them access to healthcare.[34]
Alleged rivalry with Kalla

Yudhoyono with the Vice President Jusuf Kalla
Although he had overwhelmingly won the Presidency, Yudhoyono was still weak in the People's Representative Council (DPR). PD combined with all of its coalition partners were still too weak to contend with the Legislative muscles of Golkar and PDI-P who now intended to play the role of opposition. With a National Congress to be held in December 2004, Yudhoyono and Kalla had originally backed Head of DPR Agung Laksono to become Golkar Chairman. When Agung was perceived to be too weak to run against Akbar, Yudhoyono and Kalla threw their weight behind Surya Paloh. Finally, when Paloh was perceived to be to weak to run against Akbar, Yudhoyono gave the green light for Kalla to run for the Golkar Chairmanship.[35] On 19 December 2004, Kalla was elected as the new Chairman of Golkar. Kalla's victory posed a dilemma for Yudhoyono. Although it now enabled Yudhoyono to pass legislation, Kalla's new position meant that in one sense, he was now more powerful than Yudhoyono. The first sign that points to the existence of a rivalry was during the Indian Ocean Tsunami when Kalla, apparently on his own initiative assembled the Ministers and signed a Vice Presidential decree ordering work to begin on rehabilitating Aceh. The legality of his Vice Presidential decree was questioned[36] although Yudhoyono maintained that it was he who gave the orders for Kalla to proceed. The second sign was in September 2005 when Yudhoyono went to New York to attend the annual United Nations Summit. Although Yudhoyono had left Kalla to take charge of proceedings at Jakarta, he seemed to be bent on maintaining a watch on matters at home. Yudhoyono would hold a video conference from New York to receive reports from Ministers. Critics suggest that this was an expression of distrust by Yudhoyono[37] The suggestion seemed to gain momentum when Kalla only showed up for one video conference and then spent the rest of the time taking acre of Golkar matters. Although things calmed down, especially with Golkar gaining another Cabinet position in the reshuffle, the alleged rivalry resurfaced again in October 2006 when Yudhoyono established the Presidential Work Unit for the Organization of Reform Program (UKP3R). There was accusation that this was an attempt by Yudhoyono to exclude Kalla from Government. Yudhoyono was quick to clarify that in supervising UKP3R, he will be assisted by Kalla.[38]
Dealings with Suharto
On 6 May 2005, Yudhoyono visited Suharto at hospital when the latter suffered from intestinal bleeding. On 12th May 2006, Attorney General Abdurrahman Saleh issued a Decision to Terminate Prosecution Letter (SKPP) citing Suharto's health as grounds.[39] This letter was overruled by the South Jakarta Regional Court on 12th June 2006[40] and prosecution against Suharto will continue.
Other
In July 2005, Yudhoyono appointed Police General Sutanto as Chief of Police[41] In February 2006, Yudhoyono appointed Air Marshal Djoko Suyanto as Commander of TNI.[42] Suyanto was the first TNI Commander to come from the Air Force. In October 2006, Yudhoyono formed the UKP3R which functioned to implement, supervise, and accelerate the implementation of Government policy. In addition to that, Yudhoyono delegated the task of improving the conditions for business investment, executing Government diplomacy and administration, improving the performance of the State Owned Enterprises, expanding the role of Small and Middle Businesses, and improving law enforcement as a whole.[43] The UKP3R is headed by Marsillam Simanjuntak who served as Attorney General during the Wahid Presidency. In February 2007, Yudhoyono added Welfare to UKP3R's tasks by ordering them to also put focus on the abolition of poverty, the direct cash assistance, public service as well as assisting programs in health and education[44] On August 17, 2007, Indonesia by initiative of President Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono in Jakarta, proposed that 8 nations, homes of some 80% of the world's tropical rainforests join diplomatic ranks amid rising global warming worries. Indonesia will lead the summit of 8 countries (on September 24 in New York) - Brazil, Cameroon, Congo, Costa Rica, Gabon, Indonesia, Malaysia and Papua New Guinea. On December, Indonesia will hosting a United Nations Framework Convention on Climate Change (UNFCCC) conference on Bali.[45]
Political party
During his Presidency, Yudhoyono further consolidated his position within PD. In May 2005, at PD's first National Congress, Yudhoyono was elected as Chairman of the Executive Board (Ketua Dewan Pembina).[46] From this position, Yudhoyono has the highest authority, superseding that of Chairman.
Family

The Yudhoyonos in a family outing, from left: Annisa Larasati Pohan, First Lady Ani Bambang, Edhie Baskoro Yudhoyono, Agus Harimurti Yudhoyono and Mr. President SBY
Yudhoyono lives both in the Presidential Merdeka Palace in Jakarta and his family residence in Cikeas, Bogor with his wife, Ani Bambang Yudhoyono. First Lady Ani Yudhoyono (pronounced ah-nee bumb-bung, maiden name: Kristiani Herawati) is a holder of political science degree from local Merdeka University, and was the first vice chairman of her husband's political vehicle Democratic Party. She is also the eldest child of General (Ret.) Sarwo Edhie Wibowo, one of Indonesia's high-profile generals. The family's elder son, First Lieutenant Agus Harimurti (born 1978), graduated from the reputable Taruna Nusantara High School in 1997 and Indonesian Military Academy in 2000 and is a holder of the Adhi Makayasa Medal like his father. He is currently an army first lieutenant, assigned to an infantry battalion in Bandung, West Java and is married to Annisa Larasati Pohan,[47] a model and also the daughter of an ex-Bank Indonesia vice-president, since July 8th, 2005. In July 2006, Agus was graduated from Institute of Defense and Strategic Studies, Singapore in master degree of Strategic Studies. He is currently posted in Lebanon, being a member of Indonesian contingent for United Nations Interim Force in Lebanon.[48] The family's younger son, Edhie Baskoro (born 1980), received a degree with double major, Financial Commerce and eCommerce in 2005 from the Curtin University of Technology, in Perth, Western Australia and currently following his brother's footsteps in pursuing his Master Degree in the Institute of Defense and Strategic Studies, Singapore.
Academic achievement
Yudhoyono was educated in the United States, where he received his Masters degree in Management from Webster University in 1991. He subsequently earned his PhD in agricultural economics from the Bogor Agricultural University on 3 October 2004, two days before his presidential victory was announced[49]. His dissertation is entitled "The Rural and Agricultural Development as an Effort to Alleviate Poverty and Unemployment: a political economic analysis of fiscal policy". He was also awarded with two honorary doctorates in 2005, respectively in the field of law from his alma mater, Webster University, and in political science from Thammasat University in Thailand.[50]
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Jul 10, 2009

“ 5 Health Tests that Could Save Your Life “

2009-07-08T06:23:00.000-07:00

“ 5 Health Tests that Could Save Your Life “

By: Justin Park
http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/lifesaving_health_tests/Cardiac_CT_Angiography.php#ixzz0KfgsACIl&D
Overview

1) Cardiac CT Angiography
2) Bone Density Scan
3) VO2 Max Test
4) Virtual Colonoscopy
5) Nutritional Evaluation

There are health tests we need, and those we don't. Pelvic ultrasound? Sounds ultra suspicious. Occult blood test? Only if it comes with an exorcism. Urinalysis? Great, now I'll be kicked off the tour . . .

It's tough to know which of these are truly essential, especially when they're packaged with dozens of other tests and called an "executive health exam." And yet thousands of men sign up for these screenings—at an out-of-pocket cost of up to $10,000 apiece—based on the sales pitch that a test may uncover a hidden health condition.

Of course, 10 grand might be worth it if all that random screening actually did any good: But a seminal study by the Rand Corporation found that patients who had the most screenings over 5 years were no healthier than those given less medical attention. This isn't to say executive health exams are scams. They can be quite valuable—if you know which of the procedures are worth-while. So we asked our experts to create an a la carte menu to bring to your GP. Think of these as the best tests for a recession.

http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/lifesaving_health_tests/index.php#ixzz0Kfg9v9St&D

1. Cardiac CT Angiography
These colorful 3-D images allow radiologists to calculate one of your most important heart numbers: your coronary artery calcium score, a measure of how much plaque is piling up in your arteries. A 2007 study of over 10,000 people published in the journal Atherosclerosis reported that calcium scores alone can predict heart attacks, while a 2003 study found that a high calcium score is associated with a tenfold increase in heart-disease risk. This is compared with a less-than-twofold increase in risk from traditional risk factors such as diabetes and smoking. The test has one significant downside: The radiation exposure from your average cardiac CT is equal to 600 chest x-rays, according to a study in the Journal of the American Medical Association. This produces a 1-in-5,000 risk of cancer, another study reveals.

Who needs it: Men with some of the risk factors for heart disease whose physicians may be on the fence about starting treatment. "In these medium-risk cases, cardiac CT scans and calcium scoring can provide the extra level of information that we feel we need," says Gerald Fletcher, M. D., a professor of cardiology at the Mayo Clinic. The lower the calcium score, the lower the risk. If you reach 112, your physician might recommend aspirin or statins.

Cost: $350 to $900. Most insurance companies will reimburse you if you've previously had an abnormal stress test or chest pain.
http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/lifesaving_health_tests/Cardiac_CT_Angiography.php#ixzz0KfhqZPOu&D

2. Bone Density Scan

Think osteoporosis affects only old ladies? Fact is, men begin losing bone mass at age 30. That's why it's important to assess the state of your skeleton now with a dual energy x-ray absorptiometry (DEXA) scan, which uses low-radiation x-rays to gauge bone mineral density (it can also measure body fat percentage). "DEXA scans allow us to identify people at high risk for fracture so they can start treatment to strengthen their bones before a fracture occurs," says Murray J. Favus, M. D., director of the bone program at the University of Chicago medical center. Your doctor might suggest adding strengthening workouts to your exercise program and supplementing your daily diet with up to 1,000 milligrams of calcium and up to 400 IU of vitamin D.

Who needs it: Anyone with any osteoporosis risk factors: inactivity, smoking, a family history of the disease.

Cost: $250 to $300. To increase the odds of your insurance covering the scan, make sure your doctor notes any risk factors.
http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/lifesaving_health_tests/Bone_Density_Scan.php#ixzz0Kfi9TlPR&D

3. VO2 Max Test

With the VO 2 max test, you hop on a treadmill or stationary bike and give your maximum effort while wearing a mask that captures your every breath. By analyzing the amount of oxygen you consume, the test determines how efficiently your body extracts and uses oxygen from the air. This makes it the gold standard of fitness markers, as well as a strong indicator of your overall health. "Blood pressure, cholesterol—those are what we call 'remote markers.' The best predictor of your longevity is going to be your fitness," says Walter Bortz, M. D., a longevity researcher at Stanford University.

Who needs it: Anyone who wants their blood to pump. If your score is under 18 ml/kg/min, talk to your doctor about increasing the intensity of your workouts.

Cost: $110 to $160. The test is available at physical therapy, rehab, or cardiopulmonary centers. Insurance providers won't cover it.
http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/lifesaving_health_tests/VO2_Max_Test.php#ixzz0Kfic9kJd&D

4. Virtual Colonoscopy
By definition, something "virtual" usually can't compare to the real thing. But with a virtual colonoscopy, you avoid the two downsides of a traditional colonoscopy—sedation and the risk of a perforated colon—while still benefiting from the one big upside: test results you can stake your life on. "Virtual colonoscopies have the same sensitivity for detecting large polyps, which are the precursor lesions of colon cancer," says Judy Yee, M. D., a professor of radiology at the University of California at San Francisco. Though the CT scanning technology of a virtual colonoscopy can miss some smaller polyps, a University of Wisconsin study found that these are usually benign anyway. And don't sweat the radiation; you'll receive about 5 to 8 millisieverts, an amount that isn't considered dangerous, says Dr. Yee.

Who needs it: People ages 50 and older, especially those on blood thinners, because an "oops" with a regular scope could cause dangerous internal bleeding. The exception: If your family has a history of colon cancer, you should be screened at least 10 years before the age your relative was when he or she was first diagnosed, Dr. Yee says. People who are overweight or inactive, drink or smoke heavily, or have an inflammatory bowel disease should also consider early screening.

Cost: $500 to $1,000. Many health-care plans now recognize the effectiveness of virtual colonoscopies and increasingly cover them.
http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/lifesaving_health_tests/Virtual_Colonoscopy.php#ixzz0Kfj6S7QH&D

5. Nutritional Evaluation
While it's not a test per se, putting your diet under the microscope could result in a leaner body and a longer life. "The benefits of meeting with a dietitian are accountability, moral support, and troubleshooting if your progress stalls," says Alan Aragon, M. S., the Men's Health Weight-Loss Coach. In a 2008 Kaiser Permanente study, diabetic patients who received nutritional counseling were nearly twice as likely to lose weight as those who had no guidance. To find a registered dietitian who can see beyond the food pyramid, Aragon recommends going to the American Dietetic Association's Web site (eatright.org)and clicking on "Find a Nutrition Professional." Then call the R. D. and ask how he or she stays up on the latest research, which should include reading journals such as the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition or the Journal of Applied Physiology.

Who needs it: Anyone who should lose weight or simply wants to know how they can eat to beat disease.

Cost: $40 to $75 a session. Your insurance company may reimburse you if you have a condition that can be improved with diet changes. Ask your doctor for a referral
http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/lifesaving_health_tests/Nutritional_Evaluation.php#ixzz0KfjwCVR9&D

Drs Dewasa Sitohang & Adelina Hutabarat
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Wednesday, July 08, 2009

NYPD rookie makes arrest moments after graduation

2009-07-05T05:22:00.000-07:00

NYPD rookie makes arrest moments after graduation

AP – This undated image provided by the New York Police Department shows Dariel Firpo. Firpo, a New York Police …
Fri Jul 3, 12:42 am ET
NEW YORK – A New York Police Department rookie just couldn't wait to get started.
One of the NYPD's newest officers made his first arrest Thursday just minutes after graduating from the Police Academy in a ceremony at Madison Square Garden.
Officer Dariel Firpo, 23, was leaving the midtown Manhattan ceremony when he saw a 79-year-old man being robbed of his wallet and thrown to the ground by a mugger, police said.
The mugger tried to run away, but Firpo caught him without incident, they said.
"Officer Firpo made us all proud," police Commissioner Raymond Kelly said. "He's off to a great start."
The man Firpo arrested, Jeffrey Grant, was being charged with robbery. Grant, 47, has 48 previous arrests and was just released last week from Sing Sing Correctional Facility in Ossining, N.Y., after serving time for a robbery conviction, police said.
Grant, of Manhattan, was in custody late Thursday and couldn't be contacted. The name of his attorney wasn't yet on record.
The mugging victim was treated at a hospital for a broken wrist.
Firpo's feat "may be the fastest police action upon graduation in department history," said chief police spokesman Paul Browne, who was at the graduation ceremony for the class of 250 new officers.
Firpo, who graduated from Lehman College in January with a degree in political science, said he wants to focus on community affairs while working in the nation's biggest police department.
"I'm really trying to stick in the community," he said.
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DIABETES

2009-07-01T14:19:00.000-07:00

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• Type 1 Diabetes: Recently Diagnosed, if you have been told recently that you or your child has type 1 diabetes.
• Type 1 Diabetes: Living With the Disease, if you or your child age 12 or older has type 1 diabetes. If you have not read the topic Type 1 Diabetes: Recently Diagnosed, you may want to read it first.
• Type 1 Diabetes: Children Living With the Disease, if your child age 11 or younger has type 1 diabetes. If you have not read the topic Type 1 Diabetes: Recently Diagnosed, you may want to read it first.
• Type 1 Diabetes: Living With Complications, if you have complications, such as eye, kidney, heart, nerve, or blood vessel disease caused by diabetes.

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What is type 1 diabetes?
Type 1 diabetes is a disease that starts when the pancreas stops making insulin. Insulin lets blood sugar—also called glucose—enter the body's cells to be used for energy. Without insulin, the cells can't get the sugar they need, and too much sugar builds up in the blood.
Diabetes can cause sudden or long-term problems. If the body doesn't have enough insulin and the blood sugar gets very high, a sudden and very serious problem called diabetic ketoacidosis can happen. This can be deadly. Over time, high blood sugar can damage the eyes, heart, blood vessels, nerves, and kidneys.
Type 1 diabetes can occur at any age, but it usually starts in children or young adults. That’s why it used to be called juvenile diabetes.
Type 1 diabetes is different from type 2 diabetes, which is the most common form of the illness. In type 1, the body stops making insulin. In type 2, the body does not make enough insulin, or the body can't use insulin the right way. All people with type 1 diabetes need to take insulin. Some people with type 2 diabetes also need insulin, but most people can use diet, exercise, and medicine in pills to treat that illness.
There isn't a cure for type 1 diabetes. But with treatment, people can live long and healthy lives.
What causes type 1 diabetes?
The body makes insulin in beta cells, which are in a part of the pancreas called the islet (say “EYE-let”) tissue. Type 1 diabetes starts because the body destroys the beta cells. Experts don't know why this happens.
Some people have a greater chance of getting type 1 diabetes, because they have a parent, brother, or sister who has it. But most people with the illness don't have a family history of it.
Other things that increase the risk of getting type 1 diabetes are being white and having islet cell antibodies in the blood.
What are the symptoms?
Symptoms of diabetes are:
• Being very thirsty.
• Urinating a lot.
• Losing weight without trying.
• Being hungrier than usual (sometimes).
These symptoms usually appear over a few days to weeks. Sometimes people notice symptoms after an illness, such as the flu. They may think that the diabetes symptoms are because of the flu, so they don't seek medical care soon enough.
If a person waits too long to get medical care, he or she may get symptoms of diabetic ketoacidosis. Symptoms of this problem include:
• Flushed, hot, dry skin.
• Not feeling hungry.
• Belly pain.
• Vomiting.
• A strong, fruity breath odor.
• Fast and shallow breathing.
• Restlessness, drowsiness, or trouble waking up.
• Confusion.
How is type 1 diabetes diagnosed?
A doctor asks questions about the person’s health and does a physical exam. A blood test measures the person’s glucose.
Some people are diagnosed with type 1 diabetes because they have symptoms of diabetic ketoacidosis.
How is it treated?
Treatment for type 1 diabetes focuses on keeping blood sugar levels as close to the normal range as possible. A person with type 1 diabetes needs to:
• Take insulin through daily shots or an insulin pump.
• Eat a healthy diet that spreads carbohydrate throughout the day.
• Check blood sugar levels several times a day.
• Get regular exercise.
When a small child has diabetes, the parents have the responsibility for blood sugar control. As the child grows, he or she can take over more of the diabetes care.
Treatment may change based on the results of daily home blood sugar tests and other tests or exams.
Can type 1 diabetes be prevented?
There is no way to prevent type 1 diabetes. But studies are being done to find ways to prevent or delay diabetes in people who are most likely to get it.
Tight control of blood sugar and blood pressure can help people with type 1 diabetes prevent or delay problems with their eyes, kidneys, heart, blood vessels, and nerves.
Frequently Asked Questions
Learning about type 1 diabetes: • What is type 1 diabetes?
• What causes it?
• What happens in type 1 diabetes?
• Can I prevent type 1 diabetes?
• What are the symptoms?
• What increases my risk?
• How common is it?
• What's the difference between type 1 and type 2 diabetes?

Being diagnosed: • Who can diagnose type 1 diabetes?
• How is it diagnosed?

Getting treatment: • How is it treated?

Ongoing concerns: • Can I prevent complications?

Living with type 1 diabetes: • How can I care for myself?
• When should I call my doctor?

Author: Caroline Rea, RN, BS, MS
Last Updated: September 17, 2008

Medical Review: Caroline S. Rhoads, MD - Internal Medicine
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• Type 2 Diabetes: Living With the Disease, if you have type 2 diabetes.
• Type 2 Diabetes in Children, if your child has type 2 diabetes.
• Type 2 Diabetes: Living With Complications, if you have eye, kidney, heart, nerve, or blood vessel disease caused by your diabetes.
If you are looking for information about type 1 diabetes, see the topic Type 1 Diabetes.
What is type 2 diabetes?
Type 2 diabetes is a lifelong disease that happens when the cells of the body can't use insulin the right way or when the pancreas can't make enough insulin. Insulin lets blood sugar—also called glucose—enter the body’s cells to be used for energy. When insulin is not able to do its job, the cells can't get the sugar they need, and too much sugar builds up in the blood. Over time, this extra sugar in the blood can damage your eyes, heart, blood vessels, nerves, and kidneys.
More and more adults and children are getting type 2 diabetes. This is largely because of bad eating habits and a lack of physical activity. It is important to know if you or your children are at risk for type 2 diabetes and to know what you can do to help prevent the disease.
What causes type 2 diabetes?
You can get type 2 diabetes if:
• Your body does not respond as it should to insulin. This makes it hard for your cells to get sugar from the blood for energy. This is called insulin resistance.
• Your pancreas does not make enough insulin.
Your weight, how active you are, and your family history all affect the way your body responds to insulin. If you are overweight, get little or no exercise, or have family members with diabetes, you have a greater chance of getting type 2 diabetes.
What are the symptoms?
Some people don't have symptoms, especially when diabetes is diagnosed early. This is because the blood sugar level may rise so slowly that a person may not know that anything is wrong. Other people may have symptoms, such as:
• Being very thirsty.
• Urinating a lot.
• Losing weight without trying.
• Having blurry vision.
• Feeling hungrier or more tired than usual.
Sometimes a person finds out that he or she has type 2 diabetes during a regular medical checkup. Or people may find out that they have the disease during an appointment for another health problem such as high blood pressure, an infection, or a wound that heals slowly. Some people don't find out that they have diabetes until they have a complication from the disease, such as vision problems, kidney disease, nerve disease, or heart and blood vessel problems.
How is type 2 diabetes diagnosed?
If your doctor thinks that you have type 2 diabetes, he or she will ask you questions about your medical history, do a physical exam, and order a blood glucose test. A blood glucose test is a blood test that measures the amount of sugar in your blood. The test is usually done first thing in the morning, before you eat or drink anything.
How is it treated?
The key to treating type 2 diabetes is controlling blood sugar levels. All of the following help to lower blood sugar:
• Eating healthy foods
• Losing weight, if you are overweight
• Getting regular exercise
• In some cases, taking medicines
Treatment for diabetes also includes checking blood sugar levels to make sure that the disease is under control. It is important to watch for signs of high and low blood sugar. Both can cause problems and need to be treated.
People with diabetes need regular checkups to make sure that the treatment is working and that they do not get more serious health problems.
Can type 2 diabetes be prevented?
If you are at risk for type 2 diabetes or if you have prediabetes, you may prevent diabetes by getting regular exercise and paying attention to what and how much you eat. If you are overweight, losing a little weight (10 to 20 pounds) can go a long way toward preventing or delaying the disease.
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What is gestational diabetes?
If your blood sugar level first becomes too high when you are pregnant, you have gestational diabetes. It usually goes away after the baby is born.
High blood sugar can cause problems for you and your baby. Your baby may grow too large, which can cause problems during delivery. Your baby may also be born with low blood sugar. But with treatment, most women with gestational diabetes are able to control their blood sugar and give birth to healthy babies.
Women who have had gestational diabetes are more likely than other women to develop type 2 diabetes later on. You may be able to prevent or reduce the severity of type 2 diabetes by staying at a healthy weight, eating healthy foods, and increasing your physical activity.
What causes gestational diabetes?
The pancreas makes a hormone called insulin. Insulin helps your body properly use and store the sugar from the food you eat. This keeps your blood sugar level in a safe range. When you are pregnant, the placenta makes hormones that can make it harder for insulin to work. This is called insulin resistance.
A pregnant woman can get diabetes when her pancreas cannot make enough insulin to keep her blood sugar levels within a safe range.
What are the symptoms?
Because gestational diabetes does not cause symptoms, you need to be tested for the condition. This is usually done between the 24th and 28th weeks of pregnancy.1 You may be surprised if your test shows a high blood sugar. It is important for you to be tested for gestational diabetes, because high blood sugar can cause problems for both you and your baby.
Sometimes, a pregnant woman who has symptoms has been living with another type of diabetes without knowing it. If you have symptoms from another type of diabetes, they may include:
• Increased thirst.
• Increased urination.
• Increased hunger.
• Blurred vision.
Pregnancy causes most women to urinate more often and to feel more hungry, so having these symptoms does not always mean that a woman has diabetes. Talk with your doctor if you have these symptoms, so that you can be tested for diabetes at any time during pregnancy.
How is gestational diabetes diagnosed?
Almost all women are tested for gestational diabetes between the 24th and 28th weeks of pregnancy. If your doctor thinks you are more likely to get gestational diabetes, you may be tested earlier.
Gestational diabetes is diagnosed with two blood tests. In the first test, your blood sugar level is tested 1 hour after you drink a small cup of a sweet liquid. If your blood sugar is too high, you will need to do a longer, 3-hour glucose test. If your blood sugar is still above a certain level, you have gestational diabetes.
How is it treated?
Many women with gestational diabetes can control their blood sugar level by changing the way they eat and by exercising regularly. These healthy choices can also help prevent gestational diabetes in future pregnancies and type 2 diabetes later in life.
Treatment for gestational diabetes also includes checking your blood sugar level at home and seeing your doctor regularly.
You may need to give yourself insulin shots to help control your blood sugar. This man-made insulin adds to the insulin that your body makes.
Author: Caroline Rea, RN, BS, MS
Last Updated: December 4, 2007

Medical Review: Caroline S. Rhoads, MD - Internal Medicine
Lois Jovanovic, MD - Endocrinology

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Managing Diabetes and Your Diet
No matter how clear the principles of healthy eating may be, putting them into practice can be downright confusing. Here's some help.
By EatingWell, EatingWell.com
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No matter how clear the principles of healthy eating may be, putting them into practice can be downright confusing. How does "30 percent of calories from fat" or "2 Carbohydrate Servings" translate to what's on your plate? And where does your eating plan come in when your only choice for a meal is a convenience store? In this section, we'll address many of the issues that may come up in everyday eating.
Start with Your Team
Many resources can point you toward good eating, including guidelines from the American Diabetes Association and the International Diabetes Center. But for the most practical advice that applies to your own health situation and lifestyle, start with a diabetes specialist. This person is likely to be a Registered Dietitian (RD) and/or a Certified Diabetes Educator (CDE)—both are experts in translating the abstract principles of nutrition into real-life eating.
Divide and Conquer

Getting started on eating better would be much easier if there were a simple, "big picture" image of what a sensible eating pattern looks like. The current debate about the relevance of the U.S. Department of Agriculture's Food Guide Pyramid, as well as the many competing pyramids produced by others, is a case in point. But one method is winning converts and praise across the board—perhaps because of its utter simplicity. Call it the "Divide Your Plate" strategy:
• Imagine a plate and divide it in half. Fill one half with vegetables, and divide the other half into two quarters.
• Fill one quarter with a lean protein, such as fish, skinless poultry, beans or tofu.
• Fill the other quarter with a grain-based or starchy side dish, preferably whole grains, like brown rice, whole-wheat pasta or a slice of whole-grain bread.
What this method lacks in precision it more than makes up for in good sense. If you focus on making most of your meals look this way, you'll automatically be following sound nutrition guidelines and choosing appropriate portions—without having to pull out a nutrition guide or a measuring cup every time.

A Primer on Portion Size
A key first step in building sound eating habits is to understand what reasonable portions of foods look like. For most of us, that requires a bit of re-education—and downscaling.
Many nutrition authorities believe our ability to estimate correct portions is deteriorating—largely because we are becoming used to the ever-bigger food helpings served up to us in restaurants and other venues. From soft drinks to muffins, the foods we buy in the marketplace are almost always larger than standard portion sizes—sometimes two to eight times bigger. Consider "standard"-size bagels: not long ago, they averaged 2 to 3 ounces; today, they can weigh in at up to 7 ounces. That's equivalent to seven slices of bread, and that's just at breakfast! Restaurant-size helpings of pasta, too, can be big enough to feed a family of six. Imagine what your blood-glucose levels would look like if you considered either of these carbohydrate bonanzas as a "single serving."
The insidious effect of these overblown portions is that larger helpings almost always encourage us to eat more. Several studies have shown that when adults and children are repeatedly served bigger-than-normal portions of food, they tend to eat more—regardless of how hungry they were when they sat down. This is standard procedure in restaurants, where we almost always feel compelled to clean our plates, but it also happens at home, when we serve ourselves the supersized portions we've come to perceive as "normal." No wonder our nation's obesity rate has risen in parallel with rising average portion sizes.
The best way to reclaim normal portion sizes, say experts, is by measuring them out repeatedly until it becomes instinctive. To begin, ask your diabetes-care team to provide a food list or a standard food guide that includes portion sizes. The American Diabetes Association is another good information source.
Use measuring cups and spoons and, if needed, a kitchen scale to portion out your foods. Don't forget to measure the serving utensils you use, so you'll know how "one ladleful" of soup or stew measures up. Take note of how the food looks on a plate—and try to use the same plate each time you eat that item, so you'll have a second visual reference. Continue practicing and measuring until the portions become second nature to you. This can take a few days or a few weeks; some people might opt for always measuring rather than eyeballing. It's a good idea to recheck your portion-size skills every so often, as they tend to creep up with time.
What does a portion look like?
• 1 teaspoon oil = The tip of your thumb
• 1 tablespoon salad dressing = Your whole thumb
• 2 tablespoons peanut butter = A Ping-Pong ball
• 1 to 2 ounces nuts = Your cupped hand
• 1 1/2 ounces cheese = A 9-volt battery
• 1/2 cup cottage cheese = A tennis ball
• 1 cup cereal = A baseball
• 1 small baked potato = A computer mouse
• 3-ounce serving of meat, fish or poultry = A cassette tape
• 1 standard pancake or waffle = A 4-inch DVD
Eating on Schedule, and When Life Gets in the Way
Eating at regular intervals helps ensure that your blood-glucose levels are fairly constant, so your diabetes food plan likely includes designated times for eating breakfast, lunch, dinner and, if appropriate, snacks. If you're taking insulin or other glucose-lowering medications, it's even more important to stay within those time ranges. But disruptions can throw off the best-laid plans, particularly when you're eating away from home: planes get delayed, dinner takes longer than anticipated to cook, food deliveries arrive late.
If you are within 30 minutes to an hour of your designated mealtime, there's probably no need for concern. But what should you do if a mealtime gets delayed, or moved up, significantly? Most people with diabetes carry a supply of emergency snacks or glucose to help them handle these situations (see 10 possibilities at left); your diabetes-care team can help you create your own contingency plan. Some general rules:
• If you have to eat earlier than planned, save one Carbohydrate Serving for your regular mealtime.
• If you have to wait to eat a meal, have one Carbohydrate Serving at your usual mealtime, then eat the rest of the meal later. Or, if you usually have a snack later on, have the snack at your mealtime and eat the meal during your snack time.

Snacking—Green Light or Red?
It wasn't so long ago that people with diabetes were told they needed snacks to help them manage their diabetes—timing snacks to offset drops in their blood glucose caused by insulin and other diabetes medications. But today's diabetes medication choices are much more flexible, so snacks aren't strictly necessary; the decision to snack, or not, is up to you. If you manage your glucose better by eating more frequent, smaller meals, you'll want to include some planned-for snacks in your daily routine. If there's a time of day when your blood-glucose levels tend to drop regularly, a small snack can help tide you over.
That said, a go-ahead on snacking isn't a green light to nosh uncontrollably. The keys are to consider snacks as mini-meals, and to make room for them in the rest of your day's eating. Ideally, they can complement your other meals, supplying nutrients rather than just empty calories. Get in the habit of snacking on vegetables (especially nonstarchy ones like cucumbers and cut-up bell peppers), and you'll painlessly boost your vegetable intake.
You don't have to include protein, carbohydrate and fat at every snack, but it helps make them more balanced, substantial and satisfying. A good guide to aim for is 1 or 2 Carbohydrate Servings in your snack.
Eating on the Road
Having diabetes shouldn't keep you from traveling, but it does require you to plan ahead. Be sure your diabetes supplies and medications are up to date, and carry them with you rather than in checked luggage, so you don't risk losing them. It's a good idea to include a copy of your prescriptions plus a letter from your doctor identifying you as a person with diabetes. Pack some nonperishable snacks to keep you going if your meals are delayed, such as the suggestions on page 26. And, if you'll be crossing time zones, check with your diabetes specialist about adjusting your mealtimes and medications.
The biggest challenge, though, is finding something to eat in new territory. Again, planning ahead is the answer. Call a hotel before your visit and ask about area restaurants; pack a portable meal with you on the train or plane—or, if a meal will be served en route, ask if you can pre-order a "diabetes" or "heart-healthy" meal instead. If you're driving, use travel guides to plot a route where you'll have access to accommodating restaurants, farmers' markets, grocery stores and other easy venues for nutritious food. And even if your only choice is a fast-food rest stop, you still have plenty of options. You can ask for nutrition information if you're not sure about how an item adds up in your food plan; most fast-food restaurants have this information available.

Skip the Soft Drinks
Enticing, big-bucks ad campaigns make soft drinks look like a fabulous way to quench thirst—but the reality is anything but refreshing. The average 12-ounce can of regular soda supplies about 150 calories and 38 grams of carbohydrate—the equivalent of more than 9 teaspoons of sugar. And most of us drink all those calories and carbohydrate without noticing: studies show that when people have soft drinks with meals, they don't compensate for the extra, liquid calories by eating less solid food. So drinking soda regularly is a prescription for overconsumption.
Another reason to avoid soda: it may raise the risk of developing diabetes. A recent report from the Nurses' Health Study, which surveyed the health behaviors of over 51,000 women, found that those who drank one or more regular sodas a day were twice as likely to develop diabetes during the study period as women who drank less than one can a month. Even when the researchers took such factors as weight, diet and lifestyle differences into account, they still found that the soda drinkers were 1.3 times more likely to develop diabetes.
If you have a regular soft drink habit, switching to diet soda is a start. It makes sense to also focus on finding calorie-free ways to quench thirst or wash down your meals—like sparkling water or plain water, nature's best refresher.

Alcohol and Diabetes
In your diabetes treatment counseling, you were probably warned to limit your intake of alcohol, because when consumed without food, alcohol can cause low-blood-glucose episodes and, in large amounts, raise blood pressure. At the same time, you've no doubt seen reports that a daily drink can help reduce the risk of heart disease and stroke—two diseases that pose more problems for people with diabetes. Moderate drinking is even associated with lower risk of type 2 diabetes. What can you conclude from this conflicting advice?
According to the American Diabetes Association, recommendations for people who have their diabetes under control are no different from those aimed at the general population: If you choose to drink, limit it to two drinks a day for men and one daily drink for women. If you're pregnant, have high blood triglycerides (over 500 mg/deciliter) or a history of alcohol problems in your family, it makes sense to stay away from alcohol altogether.
The limits are there for a reason; for people with diabetes, there are real risks associated with going beyond them. The first is low blood glucose. When your liver is processing alcohol, it can't make new glucose. This can cause your blood-glucose levels to drop, sometimes sharply—if you're drinking on an empty stomach and are taking insulin or diabetes drugs. Worse, this effect can last for as long as 12 to 16 hours after you drink, depending on how long it takes your body to process the alcohol. And low blood glucose can make you feel and act tipsy, so you could be doubly impaired.
So, make sure to eat something whenever you decide to drink—and take it slow. For a good model, think of the healthy way many Mediterraneans enjoy alcohol: slowly sipped throughout a meal, rather than served alone in cocktails. It's a good idea to check your blood glucose regularly after you've had a drink too.
Another issue to consider is alcohol's effects on your heart, which can be a double-edged sword. When alcohol is enjoyed in small amounts, like the ones defined as "one drink" (15 grams of alcohol equal to 12 ounces beer, or 5 ounces wine, or 1 1/2 ounces spirits), it doesn't affect blood pressure, and in fact might reduce heart problems by boosting heart-healthy HDL cholesterol and by improving sensitivity to insulin. But increase the amount of daily alcohol, and the risk of high blood pressure rises sharply—on a graph, it follows a J-shaped curve.
Alcohol in moderation, enjoyed with food to decrease the risk of low blood glucose, might help your heart, but talk with your health-care providers to determine the best strategy for you. If you're not a drinker now, there's no reason to start. If it's heart disease or diabetes risk you want to avoid, there are plenty of nonalcoholic ways to do it.
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Exams and Tests
From Healthwise
If your doctor thinks that you may have diabetes, he or she will order a couple of blood glucose tests. Blood glucose tests are blood tests that measure how much sugar is in your blood. Usually, they are done first thing in the morning, before you eat or drink anything.
To make a diagnosis of type 2 diabetes, your doctor will use your blood test results and the American Diabetes Association's criteria. He or she also will ask you questions about your medical history and do a physical exam.
If your blood sugar level is above normal but below the level for diabetes, you have prediabetes and are at risk for developing type 2 diabetes. For more information on prediabetes, see the topic Prediabetes.
Other tests
A home blood sugar test or a urine test for sugar are not the best ways to learn whether you have diabetes. However, after you are diagnosed, you may use home blood sugar tests to check your own blood sugar levels.
Along with your home blood sugar tests, your health professional will give you a hemoglobin A1c (glycohemoglobin) test after you start treatment for diabetes. This test finds your average blood sugar level over the previous 2 to 3 months. The A1c test adds to the information from your home blood sugar tests to help you keep track of your blood sugar control.
After you are diagnosed with type 2 diabetes or prediabetes, you may have a thorough exam of your cardiovascular system to check for any heart problems.
Early detection
You can use the American Diabetes Association's risk test for diabetes to see whether you are at risk for developing type 2 diabetes.
If you are age 45 or older, the American Diabetes Association recommends that you be tested for diabetes every 3 years. The United States Preventive Services Task Force (USPSTF) recommends testing for diabetes in people who have either high cholesterol or high blood pressure. Talk with your doctor about your risk factors and how often you need to be tested.
The American Diabetes Association recommends that you be tested more often or begin testing at a younger age if you:3
• Have a parent, brother, or sister who has type 2 diabetes.
• Are overweight (have a body mass index, or BMI, of 25 or higher). See the body mass index (BMI) chart for adults or the same chart in metric to determine your BMI.
• Are African American, Hispanic, Native American, Asian American, or Pacific Islander.
• Have prediabetes.
• Have high blood pressure.
• Have high cholesterol.
• Have a history of gestational diabetes or have delivered a baby who weighed 9 lb (4 kg) or more.

Medications
From Healthwise
Some people with type 2 diabetes need medicine to help their bodies make more insulin, to decrease insulin resistance, or to slow down how quickly their body absorbs carbohydrate.
You may take no medicine, one medicine, or a few medicines. Some people need medicine for short periods of time, while others always need to take medicine. How much medicine you need depends on how well you can keep your blood sugar within a safe range.
Some people who have type 2 diabetes take medicines for high blood pressure or high cholesterol. They may also take aspirin to prevent a heart attack, a stroke, or other large blood vessel diseases (macrovascular disease).
Author: Caroline Rea, RN, BS, MS
Last Updated: August 3, 2007

Medical Review: Caroline S. Rhoads, MD - Internal Medicine
Matthew I. Kim, MD - Endocrinology & Metabolism

High cholesterol
Cholesterol is a type of fat (lipid) that the body needs for many important functions, such as producing new cells. High cholesterol increases the risk of developing heart disease and stroke.
High cholesterol is caused by eating a diet that is too high in cholesterol and saturated fat or by having an inherited condition that causes elevated cholesterol levels.
Treatment includes eating a more healthful diet, increasing physical activity, and possibly taking cholesterol-lowering medicines.
A blood test can determine whether you have high cholesterol. Cholesterol is measured in milligrams per deciliter (mg/dL) or millimoles per liter (mmol/L).
• A total cholesterol level of less than 200 mg/dL (5.17 mmol/L) is desirable.
• 200 to 239 (5.17 to 6.18) is considered borderline-high cholesterol.
• 240 (6.21) or higher is considered high cholesterol.

High blood pressure (hypertension)
High blood pressure, or hypertension, is a condition in which the force of blood against artery walls is too strong. Over time, high blood pressure can damage the arteries, heart, and kidneys and can lead to heart disease and stroke.
High blood pressure can be treated effectively with lifestyle changes and medications that can reduce the risk of complications.
Blood pressure readings consist of an upper number and a lower number (such as 120 over 90 or 120/90). The upper number is systolic blood pressure; the lower number is diastolic blood pressure. Blood pressure readings are measured in units called millimeters of mercury (mm Hg). Normal blood pressure is 119 mm Hg systolic over 79 mm Hg diastolic or below.
A person has high blood pressure (hypertension) when either or both of the following are present:
• The top number (systolic) is 140 mm Hg or higher.
• The bottom number (diastolic) is 90 mm Hg or higher.

Author: Jeannette CurtisCaroline Rea, RN, BS, MS
Medical Review: Patrice Burgess, MD - Family Medicine
Adam Husney, MD - Family Medicine
Kathleen Romito, MD - Family Medicine
Last Updated: May 25, 2007

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7 tips to improve your memory

2009-07-01T12:24:00.000-07:00

Memory loss: 7 tips to improve your memory
Memory loss can be concerning. Take control by staying active and engaged.
From MayoClinic.comFind more
Aging: What to expect as you get older

Can't find your car keys? Forget what's on your grocery list? Can't remember the name of the personal trainer you liked at the gym? You're not alone. Everyone forgets things occasionally. Still, memory loss is nothing to take lightly. You can do simple things every day to improve your memory — starting today!

No. 1: Stay mentally active

Just as physical activity helps keep your body in shape, mentally stimulating activities help keep your brain in shape — and memory loss at bay. Do crossword puzzles. Read a section of the newspaper that you normally skip. Take alternate routes when driving. Learn to play a musical instrument. Volunteer at a local school or community organization.

No. 2: Socialize regularly

Social interaction helps ward off depression and stress, both of which can contribute to memory loss. Look for opportunities to get together with loved ones, friends and others — especially if you live alone. When you're invited to share a meal or attend an event, go!

No. 3: Get organized

You're more likely to forget things if your home is cluttered and your notes are in disarray. Jot down tasks, appointments and other events in a special notebook or calendar. You might even repeat each entry out loud as you write it down to help cement it in your memory. Keep to-do lists current, and check off items you've completed. Set aside a certain place for your wallet, keys and other essentials.

No. 4: Focus

Limit distractions, and don't try to do too many things at once. If you focus on the information that you're trying to remember, you'll be more likely to recall it later. It might also help to connect what you're trying to remember to a favorite song or another familiar concept.

No. 5: Eat a healthy diet

A heart-healthy diet is as good for your brain as it is for your heart. Focus on fruits, vegetables and whole grains. Choose low-fat protein sources, such as lean meat, skinless poultry and fish. What you drink counts, too. Not enough water or too much alcohol can lead to confusion and memory loss.

No. 6: Include physical activity in your daily routine

Physical activity increases blood flow to your whole body, including your brain — which may help keep your memory sharp. Aim for at least 30 minutes of aerobic activity a day. If you don't have time for a full workout, squeeze in a few 10-minute walks throughout the day.

No. 7: Manage chronic conditions

Follow your doctor's treatment recommendations for any chronic conditions, such as thyroid problems, high blood pressure and depression. The better you take care of yourself, the better your memory is likely to be.

When to seek help for memory loss

If you're worried about memory loss — especially if memory loss affects your ability to complete your usual daily activities — consult your doctor. He or she will likely do a physical exam, as well as check your memory and problem-solving skills. Sometimes other tests are needed as well. Treatment will depend on what's contributing to the memory loss.

Last Updated: April 30, 2009
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AGING

2009-07-01T12:20:00.001-07:00

Aging: What to expect as you get older
Explore the natural changes that are part of the normal aging process.
From MayoClinic.com
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Memory loss: 7 tips to improve your memory
Looked in the mirror lately only to find a few more wrinkles and gray hairs? Those are just a few of the changes you're likely to notice as you get older. But what exactly is going on with your body? Here's a list of the natural changes you can expect as you age.
Cardiovascular system
Over time, your heart muscle becomes less efficient, working harder to pump the same amount of blood through your body. In addition, your blood vessels lose elasticity. Hardened fatty deposits may form on the inner walls of your arteries (atherosclerosis), narrowing the vessels. The natural loss of elasticity, in combination with atherosclerosis, makes your arteries stiffer, causing your heart to work even harder to pump blood through them. This can lead to high blood pressure (hypertension).
Bones, muscles and joints
Your bones reach their maximum mass between ages 25 and 35. As you age, your bones shrink in size and density. One consequence is that you might become shorter. Gradual loss of density weakens your bones and makes them more susceptible to fracture. Muscles, tendons and joints generally lose some strength and flexibility as you age.
Digestive system
Swallowing and the motions that automatically move digested food through your intestines slow down as you get older. The amount of surface area within your intestines diminishes slightly. The flow of secretions from your stomach, liver, pancreas and small intestine may decrease. These changes generally don't disrupt your digestive process, so you may never notice them. But you might notice more constipation.
Kidneys, bladder and urinary tract
With age, your kidneys become less efficient in removing waste from your bloodstream. Chronic conditions such as diabetes or high blood pressure and some medications can damage your kidneys further.
About one in 10 people age 65 and older has experienced a loss of bladder control (urinary incontinence). Incontinence can be caused by a number of health problems, such as obesity, frequent constipation and chronic cough.
Women are more likely than men to have incontinence. Women who've been through menopause might experience stress incontinence as the muscles around the opening of the bladder (sphincter muscles) lose strength and bladder reflexes change. As estrogen levels decline, the tissue lining the tube through which urine passes (urethra) becomes thinner. Pelvic muscles become weaker, reducing bladder support.
In older men, incontinence is sometimes caused by an enlarged prostate, which can block the urethra. This makes it difficult to empty your bladder and can cause small amounts of urine to leak.
Brain and nervous system
The number of cells (neurons) in your brain decreases with age, and your memory becomes less efficient. However, in some areas of your brain, the number of connections between the cells increases, perhaps helping to compensate for the aging neurons and maintain brain function. Your reflexes tend to become slower. You also tend to become less coordinated and may have difficulty with balance.
Eyes
With age, your eyes are less able to produce tears, your retinas thin, and your lenses gradually turn yellow and become less clear. In your 40s, focusing on objects that are close up may become more difficult. Later, the colored portions of your eyes (irises) stiffen, making your pupils less responsive. This can make it more difficult to adapt to different levels of light. Other changes to your lenses can make you sensitive to glare, which presents a problem when driving at night. Common conditions that affect aging eyes include cataracts, glaucoma and macular degeneration.
Ears
Hearing loss is one of the most common conditions affecting adults who are middle-aged and older. About half of all people older than age 85 experience hearing loss. Over the years, noises can damage the sensory hair cells of your inner ears.
Also, the walls of your auditory canals thin, and your eardrums thicken. You may have difficulty hearing high frequencies. Some people find it difficult to follow a conversation in a crowded room. Changes in the inner ear or in the nerves attached to it, earwax buildup and various diseases can all affect your hearing.
Teeth
How your teeth and gums respond to age depends on how well you've cared for them over the years. But even if you're meticulous about brushing and flossing, you may notice that your mouth feels drier and your gums have pulled back (receded). Your teeth may darken slightly and become more brittle and easier to break.
Most adults can keep their natural teeth throughout their lives. But with less saliva to wash away bacteria, your teeth and gums become slightly more vulnerable to decay and infection. If you've lost most or all of your natural teeth, you might use dentures or dental implants as a replacement.
Some older adults experience dry mouth (xerostomia), which can lead to tooth decay and infection. Dry mouth can also make speaking, swallowing and tasting difficult. Oral cancer is more common among older adults. Your dentist checks for oral cancer when you go for regular cleanings and checkups.
Skin, nails and hair
With age, your skin thins and becomes less elastic and more fragile. You'll likely notice that you bruise more easily. Decreased production of natural oils may make your skin drier and more wrinkled. Age spots can occur, and small growths called skin tags are more common. Your nails grow at about half the pace they once did. Your hair may gray and thin. In addition, you likely perspire less — making it harder to stay cool in high temperatures and putting you at increased risk of heat exhaustion and heat stroke.
How fast your skin ages depends on many factors. The most significant factor is sun exposure over the years. The more sun your skin has been exposed to, the more damaged it may be. Smoking adds to skin damage, such as wrinkles. Skin cancer also is a concern. Your risk of skin cancer increases as you age.
Sleep
Sleep needs change little throughout adulthood. If you need six hours of sleep nightly, chances are you'll always need six hours — give or take 30 minutes. However, as you age, you'll likely find that you sleep less soundly, meaning you'll need to spend more time in bed to get the same amount of sleep. By age 75, some people wake up several times each night.
Weight
As you age, maintaining a healthy weight — or losing weight if you're overweight — may be more difficult. Your metabolism generally slows, meaning that your body burns fewer calories. Calories that were once used to meet your daily energy needs instead are stored as fat. Your level of activity may decrease, resulting in unwanted weight gain.
Sexuality
With age, sexual needs, patterns and performance may change. Women's vaginas tend to shrink and narrow, and the walls become less elastic. Vaginal dryness is a problem. All of this can make sex painful.
Impotence becomes more common in men as they age. By age 65, as many as one in four men has difficulty getting or keeping an erection. In others, it may take longer to get an erection, and it may not be as firm as it used to be.
Healthy changes can improve quality of life as you age
If you think you've already done too much damage to yourself to hope for a long life, think again. Researchers say it's never too late to adopt a healthy lifestyle. For example, if you quit smoking now, your risk of heart disease begins to fall almost immediately.
Living a healthy lifestyle can improve how you age. Try the following:
Stop smoking.
Eat a healthy diet full of fruits, vegetables and whole grains.
Exercise for at least 30 minutes most days of the week.
Maintain a healthy weight.
Get enough sleep so that you wake feeling rested.
Follow your doctor's guidance for checkups and health screenings.
Last Updated: August 09, 2008
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FAQ about DIABETES

2009-07-01T12:10:00.000-07:00

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Taming Diabetes
Diabetes can be managed to the point that it seems to be gone. But it's not.
By Dr. Rob for MSN Health & Fitness

Q: Is diabetes reversible? If so, at what stage? I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes about three years ago. I have been maintaining my weight, staying on the right diet, and exercise at least three to four times a week.
A: The quick answer is: Diabetes can be managed. However, once a person has a form of this disease, they always need to be vigilant in controlling their blood glucose levels. But if you have been diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, your switch to a healthier lifestyle is providing you the opportunity to control this disease either with, or potentially without, diabetic medication.
Diabetes affects the way our bodies utilize the form of sugar in our blood known as glucose. In non-affected people, the pancreas usually makes the right amount of insulin to move the glucose obtained from food into the cells of our body for their growth and energy supply. In people with diabetes, the production of insulin by the pancreas may be affected, or the body's ability to use the insulin that is produced is impaired.
There are three main types of diabetes:
Type 1 occurs in five percent to 10 percent of all those affected with diabetes. It is considered an autoimmune disease in which the bodies' infection fighting system turns against the insulin producing cells in the pancreas, resulting in little or no insulin production. The reason this occurs is unknown. It most often begins during childhood and the young adult years, but can happen at any time in affected individuals. It is not reversible and requires medical treatment with insulin. Some individuals have received pancreas transplants or investigational procedures that have the potential to decrease or eliminate the need for insulin; however, they are not widely used alternatives.
Gestational diabetes affects approximately five percent of pregnant women. It is more common during the later stages of pregnancy and tends to correct after childbirth. However, within five to 10 years, those affected have a higher likelihood of developing Type 2 diabetes. The good news is that many of these cases can be prevented or delayed through regular exercise and weight control.
Type 2 is the most common form of diabetes. It is more likely to affect adults 45 and older, but can affect individuals of any age or ethnicity. Risk factors include:
Overweight
Inactivity
Family history of diabetes or gestational diabetes
Metabolic syndrome (high triglycerides, low HDL, obese with a large waist, high blood pressure, insulin resistance)
Prediabetes
Certain ethnicities have a higher rate of Type 2. These include African American, American Indian, Asian American, Hispanic American/Latino, Native Hawaiians and other Pacific Islanders.
Type 2 can be controlled as well as treated with lifestyle modifications (exercise, weight reduction, and healthier nutrition, among other efforts), or in combination with medication. It may even be prevented if identified during the early warning phase known as prediabetes.
The diagnosis of prediabetes is based upon a measurement of blood glucose after an eight-hour fast (impaired fasting glucose or IFG), or two hours after drinking a special beverage with added glucose (impaired glucose tolerance or IGT). A positive result to any one of these tests means there is an elevated level of glucose in the blood, but not yet high enough to be considered diabetes. This information is very important because if the high blood sugar is left unchecked, the affected person has a higher likelihood of developing Type 2 diabetes within 10 years of the prediabetes diagnosis. The good news is through weight reduction and regular exercise, Type 2 may be prevented, or at least delayed.
So even though glucose levels can get back to a "normal" range, it doesn’t mean the person is cured and their condition is reversed. What it does mean is that their diabetes is being managed and they are taking good care of themselves.
For further information, please visit the National Diabetes Education Program at www.cdc.gov/diabetes or the Office of Minority Health Resource Center at http://www.omhrc.gov/.
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CULINARY

2009-07-01T11:55:00.000-07:00

Regional Culinary Delights
From downright oddities to renowned eats, explore these regional fares that the locals love.
By Maureen Sullivan for MSN City Guides
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Largely unavailable outside the area, beef on weck is Buffalo’s lesser known contribution to the American palate.
You know to get barbecue while in Kansas City, deep dish pizza in Chicago or sourdough bread when in San Francisco (even in a bread bowl down by the Wharf, an area the natives avoid). But those aren't the only towns with a dish to call their own. There are scores of other regional culinary delights out there, downright oddities that can't be found outside their hometowns or surrounding areas. We've rounded up some of the tastier ones -- and a few of the more unusual. This listing, however, is far from conclusive so let us know on the message boards if we missed a favorite regional food where you live.The Horseshoe Sandwich -- Springfield, Ill.Until Barack Obama announced his presidential candidacy (and later, his running mate) there, Springfield, Ill., hadn't seen a lot of action since Abe Lincoln left for the White House. Sure, there's the new museum and library built to honor Lincoln, and his Springfield home, grave and law offices remain major tourist destinations. But one of the more unique things that Springfield can call its very own is gastronomic: the horseshoe sandwich.
Yes, somewhere buried under the fries is an open-face sandwich.
The horseshoe exemplifies the phrase "heart attack on a plate." Start with two slices of white bread, often Texas toast, side by side. (This sandwich is open-faced.) Add your meat of choice: hamburger patties (the most common pick), turkey, ham, chicken, even pork tenderloin all reside here. Now add a layer of fries -- yes, fries on the sandwich, not on the side. Then, drench it all in a melted cheese sauce reminiscent of Welsh rarebit, which varies by restaurant. The cheese sauce is what sets each horseshoe apart.Most local eateries serving pub fare offer their own version, and there's long-standing debate over whose is king. Bernie and Betty's, an old pizza joint, gets high marks from locals, the long-standing rumor being that the cheese sauce's secret ingredient is beer. The Track Shack always rates extremely well with word-of-mouth mentions for its 'shoe, especially the one with Canadian bacon.
But it's D'Arcy's Pint that has, using a white-cheddar cheese sauce, raised the horseshoe's profile. Al Roker's "Roker on the Road" program featured the restaurant's horseshoe when Roker stopped by in an episode featuring unusual regional sandwiches (the D'Arcy's sandwich's consistent ranking in local papers as "the best horseshoe" rankles many a local traditionalist). While the profile might be national, availability isn't: You might find a horseshoe in some neighboring towns (Champaign-Urbana, for example), but don't expect to shorten your life span with one outside central Illinois.Pasties -- Upper Peninsula of Michigan"How do you like your pasties?" (that's p-aaa-sties, with a short and very nasal "a") is a question you'll hear throughout Michigan's Upper Peninsula -- the UP to "Yoopers," as locals are known. The region is home to this traditionally English meat pie, brought over from Cornwall, England, in the 1850s. A pasty has all the ingredients you picture in a pot pie -- chopped and seasoned ground beef, potatoes and vegetables like carrots, rutabagas and onion -- but all wrapped in pastry dough that resembles a calzone.
A pot pie fit for English royalty can be found in the UP.
Some of the best pasties can be found at Dobber's in Escanaba, Mich., according to best-of polls in recent years. And though they're predominantly found in the UP, pasties are not unheard of in lower Michigan: Albie's in Gaylord also gets kudos. You could drive all over the UP tracking down your pastry of choice, but with Lake Superior, Lake Michigan and miles and miles of pristine forests, it's scenic enough up there that you won't mind going the extra mile(s).________________________________________Related articles on MSN:
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Beef on Weck -- Buffalo, N.Y.Yes, this city is famous for making wings a nationwide taste sensation. But Buffalo boasts another, er, delicacy: Beef on weck. What is weck, exactly? Sometimes referred to as kummelweck, kümmelweck, or kimmelweck (no wonder it's been shortened to "weck"), it's a hard roll with caraway seeds and pretzel salt baked into its top. And thinly sliced roast beef (typically served rare), the horseradish that tops the beef, and the side of au jus for dipping, make up the beef on weck. It's the roll that's key here; if you like salt, you're in for a treat.
Beef on weck is served at restaurants throughout the Buffalo area, but not much beyond western New York; the national franchise Buffalo Wild Wings was originally Buffalo Wild Wings and Weck, but it had long since dropped the "weck" from its name, and its menu, before gaining popularity nationwide. The best weck in town is another hotly contested topic, but Schwabl's in West Seneca gets accolades among aficionados, as well as Eckl's Beef and Weck Restaurant in Orchard Park and Bar Bill Tavern in East Aurora.Provel Cheese -- St. LouisThink of St. Louis' landmark contributions. The Arch. The Anheuser-Busch Clydesdales. Chuck Berry. Provel cheese? Yep, it's up there as a gift from the Gateway to the West. A white blend of cheddar, Swiss and provolone, provel is most often used on St. Louis-style pizza (a cracker-thin-crust pie that uses provel instead of provolone or mozzarella) and on the Gerber sandwich (toasted, open-faced, buttered French or Italian bread with garlic, ham, paprika and provel). But St. Louis restaurants seem to throw provel on every dish -- salads, chicken, burgers, sometimes as a substitute for Italian cheese in white-sauced pasta. And with good reason: it's soft but not spreadable, it melts easily and has a smoky sharpness reminiscent of a cheddar, and more flavor than a typical hard white cheese.
Famous for its arch, St. Louis residents love its lesser known provel cheese.
In recent years, provel has journeyed beyond St. Louis; some supermarkets as far away as Kansas City carry provel "ropes" that can be chopped and used in salad, and St. Louis-style pizza can be found there as well. But the frequent and widespread use of provel is still largely confined to the St. Louis area, where its citizens remain devoted to it in pizza, sandwiches and anything else they can think of. It's easiest to try provel at one of the originators of St. Louis-style pizza: Family-run Serra's in Maryland Heights and locally based chain Imo's both lay claim to inventing it. (Imo's will ship St. Louis-style pies to hungry expats or the otherwise curious who can't satisfy their provel hankering where they are.) Nick and Elena's in Overland also gets props for staying true to the provel style.
Muffuletta Sandwiches -- New OrleansThe Big Easy has so much going for it, gastronomically and otherwise. Not many other areas of the country have beignets in the true Café du Monde tradition or coffee with chicory. But the true New Orleans secret is a sandwich. And it isn't the po' boy as might be expected, nor is there anything French or Cajun about. It's the Italian muffuletta.
Some come for the po' boys but those in the know come for the muffulettas.
Served on a seeded, round Italian loaf of the same name, the muffuletta typically has at least salami and ham, possibly with other cured Italian meats (contenders include capicola or mortadella) as well as provolone. It's all topped with a marinated olive salad (green and black olives and herbs, to which is often added celery, garlic, pimientos, cocktail onions and capers, among other additions), which, along with the distinctive bread (the round loaf is split horizontally for the sandwich, then often quartered for serving sizes), is what sets the sandwich apart.
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Where do you get one? The muffuletta originated in 1906 at Central Grocery in the French Quarter, where the original recipe is still served. It's a staple of sandwich shops and pubs across the Crescent City, however, with heated dispute about where's best. Some other names that top the list: Frank's Deli (also in the Quarter), Nor-Joe's, DiMartino's, and the Come Back Inn in Kenner. Though it's hard to find muffuletta served outside the New Orleans area (some restaurants in New York have attempted it, but New Orleans natives say it's not the same), you can take it with you: the prepared olive salad that tops the sandwich is sold in most New Orleans grocery stores. Just be sure to grab a jar before you hop your flight home.
Let us know on the message boards if we missed a favorite regional fare where you live.
Maureen Sullivan, formerly the editor of KC Weddings and Art magazines, is a freelance writer living in Kansas City, Mo.
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Michael Jackson died on Jun 25, 2009

2009-06-26T05:17:00.000-07:00

Friday, June 26, 2009

Little boy Michael
Michael Jackson was just 12 when this picture was taken in May 1971, but his career was already stratospheric. Berry Gordy had signed the Jackson 5 to Motown Records in 1968, and Michael and his brothers had already topped the charts with "ABC" and "I'll Be There." It was a bright start for the boy from Gary, Ind.
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Michael Jackson's life and timesJune 25: From his beginnings in "Jackson Five," Michael Jackson evolved as a solo performer which redefined him for his adoring public. NBC's Peter Alexander reports.

Signs of success
Michael Jackson, far left, and the rest of the Jackson Five in 1972. The five brothers from Indiana were signed to Berry Gordy's Motown record label.
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Michael Jackson declared deadJune 25: Pop star Michael Jackson died Thursday at UCLA Medical Center after suffering from a cardiac arrest. NBC’s Lester Holt reports.

All in the family
The Jackson 5 perform in Los Angeles on a 1970s Bob Hope TV special. Michael continued to front the band, but his solo career was already on the rise, starting with 1971's "Got to Be There."

A wonderful Wiz
Michael Jackson at the opening of "The Wiz." The 1978 movie musical was the first time the pop star worked with legendary producer Quincy Jones, who would soon produce Jackson's breakout solo album "Off the Wall," and eventually the "Thriller" album as well. Jackson's "Wiz" co-star was friend and mentor Diana Ross, who had introduced the world to the Jackson 5 back in 1969.

Wanna be startin' somethin'?
Michael Jackson performs in concert during a 1981 tour with his brothers. During the tour, Michael began writing down ideas for a solo project that blossomed into the highest selling album of all time.

Fright night
Michael Jackson stands with a group of dancers dressed as zombies while filming his 1983 video "Thriller." "Thriller" was revolutionary in the music industry. The zombie-themed minimovie put MTV on the map and essentially confirmed music videos as an art form of their own. The album sold 25 million copies in the United States alone.

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Moment of stardom
Michael Jackson performs the moonwalk during "Billie Jean" for the first time on television's "Motown 25," a tribute to Berry Gordy. The dance move that would become Michael's trademark stunned viewers and the crowd, and marked his imminent crowning as the King of Pop.
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Holt on Jackson's legacy: 'We all know the words to these songs'June 25: Brian Williams and Lester Holt talk about Michael Jackson's effect on our popular culture.
Handfuls of glory
With Quincy Jones at his side, Michael Jackson holds six of the eight awards he won for "Thriller" at the 1984 Grammy Awards. His outfit, complete with epaulets, sequined glove and dark shades, became a quintessential Michael look.

They were the world
In January 1985, a who's who of the music and movie worlds came together to sing "We Are the World," written to benefit famine victims in Ethiopia. Michael Jackson can be seen front and center, along with Stevie Wonder, Lionel Richie, Diana Ross, Elizabeth Taylor and dozens of other stars. Michael's sister Janet can be seen bottom right.

Role model
During a May 1984 ceremony at the White House, Michael Jackson accepts a Presidential Award from President Reagan as first lady Nancy Reagan looks on. Jackson was honored as a model for American youth, and for lending his hit song "Beat It" to a new campaign against drunk driving.

A scary day
Michael Jackson, background, is seen with his hair on fire during a taping of a Pepsi TV commercial in Los Angeles on February 1984 as brother Jermaine Jackson, foreground, continues to perform, apparently unaware of the situation.

Victory lap
Guitarist Eddie Van Halen, left, makes a July 1984 guest appearance during Michael Jackson's Victory Tour concert in Irving, Texas. Van Halen had recorded the now immortal guitar riff on "Beat It," to the displeasure of bandmate David Lee Roth, but to the delight of nearly everyone else.

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Who's bad?
Michael Jackson and his dancers in concert during a 1987 Tokyo concert on Jackson's "Bad" tour. The previous year, he had starred in the 3-D film "Captain EO," one of the most expensive short films ever. But Jackson had begun to draw more criticism as his albums and videos grew costlier and more infrequent. His next album, "Dangerous," wouldn't arrive until 1991.

A difficult year
A cameraman photographs Michael Jackson and Oprah Winfrey in January 1993. This was the year Jackson was first accused of child molestation, and he took an opportunity on a 90-minute Oprah TV special to address the charges. The criminal allegations eventually were dropped, but Jackson reportedly paid as much as $25 million to settle the claims.
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Black and white at the Super Bowl
Michael Jackson gives a performance with 30,000 children during the Super Bowl XXVIII halftime show on Jan. 31, 1993, in Pasadena, Calif. Despite allegations against him, Jackson's career had regained momentum with hits such as "Black or White" and "Remember the Time," and the "Dangerous" album was a multiplatinum seller.
Power marriage
Michael Jackson and then wife Lisa Marie Presley are seen at Neverland Ranch in preparation of the Children's World Summit in April 1995. Presley would file for divorce less than a year later, prompting speculation about just what had inspired the relationship.
Golden man
Michael Jackson performs on stage during is "HIStory" world tour concert at Ericsson Stadium in November 1996 in Auckland, New Zealand.

Marriage 2.0
Just months after his divorce from Lisa Marie, Michael Jackson walked down the aisle with Debbie Rowe. This wedding photo was released by Jackson's publicist minutes after the Nov. 13, 1996, ceremony in Sydney, Australia. But the pairing was less about romance and more about bearing Jackson a child, and the two would divorce three years later, with Rowe eventually ceding parental rights to Jackson.

Best of friends
Michael Jackson and Elizabeth Taylor arrive at a Sept. 7, 2001, concert celebrating the 30 years of Jackson's career. The two stars had been longtime friends, and Taylor is godmother to two of Michael's children.

Not so invincible
Michael Jackson poses for photographers during a November 2001 appearance in New York's Times Square. Jackson made his first ever in-store appearance to promote his new album "Invincible," which was released Oct. 30. "Invincible," at the time the most expensive album ever produced, fared better with critics and fans than 1995's "HIStory," but questions began to surface about the future of Jackson's career.

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One big mistake
Michael Jackson holds a towel-covered Prince Michael II over the balcony of a Berlin hotel on Nov. 19, 2002. Jackson later called the incident a "terrible mistake," but the image of him dangling his baby son out a window shocked even many die-hard fans. And his reputation was to receive far worse damage just a few months later.
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Arresting development
Michael Jackson is pictured in this Santa Barbara County Sheriff's Department mug shot from Nov. 20, 2003. In a February 2003 documentary, Jackson acknowledged letting boys sleep in his bed. Soon after, Santa Barbara district attorney Tom Sneddon launched a probe into allegations that Jackson had molested a teen boy who appeared in the program. Authorities raided Neverland Ranch in November, and Jackson surrended for arrest days later.

Family support
Michael, center, and sisters LaToya, left and Janet Jackson walk over to greet fans during a lunch break at a pretrial hearing in Santa Maria, Calif., in this Aug. 16, 2004, file photo
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MJ's PJs
Michael Jackson wears pajama pants and is aided by bodyguards after arriving more than an hour late to court on Mar. 10, 2005, during his trial on the 2003 molestation charges. Jackson appeared after Judge Rodney Melville threatened to revoke his bail.

Singin' with the kids
Michael Jackson sings with some of his young fans at the World Music Awards at Earls Court in London on Nov. 16, 2006.
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Fans in uniform
Michael Jackson receives a letter of appreciation from Col. Robert M. Waltemeyer, the garrison commander of Camp Zama, on March 10, 2007, in Zama, Japan. Michael greeted thousands of U.S. troops and their family members at the U.S. Army base.
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Father figure
Michael Jackson walks with kids Prince and Paris through a studio parking lot in Los Angeles in March 2009. The singer had been spotted with his entourage going to a studio on a cold rainy day in the city. The pop star stayed at the studio for more than two hours, and there were many production people working around him, suggesting that the star was filming.
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Own a piece of Jackson’s NeverlandMarch 24: Julien’s Auctions is selling more than 2,000 items from Michael Jackson’s personal estate. TODAY’s Ann Curry talks to Darren Julien and Martin Nolan about the auction.
Concert tour planned
Fans take pictures of an electronic screen projecting a press conference by Michael Jackson at the O2 arena in London on March 5, 2009. The pop megastar announced he would play a series of comeback concerts in London in July, his first major shows in more than a decade.
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Jackson announces new concertsLooking very much the King of Pop, Michael Jackson, a bit thin, but seemingly in good health, says he will be performing the songs his fans want to hear.
Michael Jackson fans gather at UCLA Medical Center in Los Angeles Thursday afternoon. Pop giant Michael Jackson is dead at the age of 50.
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Crowds begin to form outside UCLA hospitalJune 25: MSNBC’s Keith Olbermann reports that the details that led up to and following Michael Jackson’s cardiac arrest remain unclear. The pop star, who lived an extraordinary life, has passed away and is being mourned by fans in California and around the world.
Police tape hangs across the street near the emergency room dock for the xterior UCLA Medical Center in Los Angeles Thursday.
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Michael Jackson dies at 50June 25: Entertainer Michael Jackson has died after collapsing at his home in west Los Angeles Thursday morning. NBC’s Michael Okwu reports.
People watch the news about Michael Jackson in New York's Times Square, Thursday, June 25.
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'He was one of the best'June 25: Mark Lester, godfather of Michael Jackson's children, reacts to the news of the pop star's death and says he will do everything for Jackson’s children.

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Signe Ravn, of Copenhagen, Denmark, center, takes a photo of the video board in New York's Times Square as twins Omar, left, and Mike Felici of Staten Island, react to the news that Michael Jackson has died, Thursday.

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Video of ambulance leaving Jackson homeJune 25: Video from Hollywood.TV purportedly shows an ambulance pulling out of Michael Jackson’s home this afternoon.

A Michael Jackson fan sits outside the UCLA Medical Center in Los Angeles on Thursday. Pop giant Michael Jackson, who took to the stage as a child star and set the world dancing to exuberant rhythms for decades, died on Thursday after being taken ill at his home. He was 50.

HOLONG MAR NATUA-TUA

2009-06-25T22:47:00.000-07:00

HOLONG Mar NATUA-NATUA ( Sayang sama Orang Tua )Ini Pengalaman Hidup ku, sewaktu Saya berumur 29 tahun ( sa,at itu sudah di karunai Anak 2 orang dan 2 tahun berikut nya lahir lah Anak si Ampudan ( Bontot ).Sa'at itu, Amang ( Bapak ku ) masih Hidup, tetapi Inang ( Ibu ku ) sudah duluan ( Wafat ), jadi Artinya Ibu ku belum pernah merasakan Bagaimana Enaknya Hasil pencaharian ( Duit ) dari Anak nya, Inilah perasaan yg sampai sekarang belum bisa Aku penuhi utk melengkapi LINGKARAN ( 360 derajat ) Kebutuhan Hidupku.Sa’at Itu Bapak ku ( Natua2 i ) tinggal bersama KAMI di Pekanbaru, Aku merasa Gembira masih bisa membuat Natua2 i merasakan sedikit dari hasil jerih Payah ku.Cerita nya begini :Kalau Aku pulang kerja, Natua2 i menunggu Saya dgn menjaga / menggendong Pahompu nya. Lama kelama an saya bertanya dalam Hati, Apakah Natua2 ku ini tidak bosan tinggal dengan KAMI? Karena Hidup nya Monotone hanya mengikuti KEBIASAAN2 yg berlaku setiap hari di Rumah KAMI a Anak nya, tanpa Mengingat atau Memperdulikan KEBIASAAN nya dahulu?Aku mencoba mengajak / mebawa Natua2 ku ini makan Mie, Babi Kecap di Rumah Makan GELAS MAS di Pasar Bawah( Dulu inilah Rumah Makan Favorit Orang Cina & Batak) di Pekan Baru, dengan Kantong Pas2 an. Memang Hidangan itu di makan nya, tetapi Aku bisa lihat, Beliau tidak seberapa Puas dengan apa yg Kami Makan. Memang sewaktu Saya Tanya, bagaimana Rasanya, Amang menjawab “ TABO “ do ( enak ) ?, tetapi Aku sebagai Anak nya dapat merasakan bahwa beliau tak begitu puas, tetapi belum seperti apa yg di hatinya ( Mudar do na mangkatai, alana Mudar Na do na turun / mengalir tu Ahu ). Lama Juga Saya mengenang, Apa2 dulu KESUKAAN orang Tua ini, baru Aku ingat bahwa Beliau kerjanya dahulu Jual Beli Hewan ( Kerbau , Sapi dan Kuda ) di Sidikalang, berarti Beliau menginginkan Makan Daging setiap hari. Toh Juga Aku Lihat, Bapak ku itu belum begitu Puas. Semakin Saya mengingat Kebiasaan nya atau Apa yg di sukai Natua2ku, semakin teringat, Bahwa Beliau SUKA MINUM TUAK, pada hal Saya sendiri TIDAK SUKA minum Tuak. Dekat Rumah atau tidak seberapa Jauh dari Rumah, Dahulu ada Kedai TUAK di Jl Hang Tuah Pekanbaru, Kedai milik Marga Sianipar, sepulang kerja ,Saya antar Natua2 i kesana naik Kereta TRAIL ku utk Minum TUAK, dan Saya Tanya Jam berapa di jemput balik, katanya sekitar 1 s/d 1 ½ jam an lah.Sa’at nya tiba, Aku Jemput Natua2 i dari Kedai Tuak, dan sesudah Sampai di Rumah, Aku Tanya mengenai PERASAAN nya, Beliau Merasa GEMBIRA dan PUAS sekali, karena Beliau dapat merasakan / mencicipi Kebiasaan nya dan Kesukaan nya, dan yg paling membuat Beliau merasa Senang dan Gembira, Beliau BISA ketemu dengan KELUARGA HALAK HITA BATAK, berceritra dari mana asalnya, marga apa, Pengalaman2 masa lalu dohot angka na asing mengenai Paradat on, juga yg lain2. Setiap sore hari, Aku antar Orangtuaku itu ke Kedai Tuak SIANIPAR ini,Bapakku Ceritra bahwa begitu banyak Beliau Kenal, dan disebut semua Namanya, Tutur nya, Kampung nya, Marga Nya, dll sampai2 AKU Merasakan KALAH jika di banding dgn BELIAU mengenai DAYA INGAT nya atas SEMUA apa yg Beliau Ceritrakan. Ini Memotivasi Saya, Berarti harus bisa Saya seperti Beliau utk MENGINGAT. Kenangan ITU hanya tinggal KENANGAN, karena BAPAK ku tercinta sudah MENGHADAP / DIPANGGIL TUHAN tahun 1982 sebelum Anak ku si AMPUDAN lahir tahun 1983, dan BELUM SEMPAT banyak Merasakan hasil Jerih Payah ku.Kami di karunai Anak 3 Orang, AGUSTINA, CHANDRA dan LARRYVO , Hela RAMSES TAMBA dan baru satu orang Pahompu si SEBIRA yg begitu KAMI Sayangi dan MEREKA juga Menyayangi KAMI, Mudah2 an Anak Kami LAKI2 / Lajang cepat dapat Jodoh dan dikarunai Anak, supaya semakin lengkaplah REZEKI / PASU2 dari TUHAN melalui sude NATUA2 nami. DAN Mereka ( Anak2 Kami ), KAMI harapkan juga MENGERTI akan PERASAAN Technical KNOW & HOW to OCCUPY, about What their Parents’ NEEDS / DEMANDS.Dari Pengalaman ini, ada yg di PESANKAN dari segi MARKETING TECHNIQUES / Teknik Pemasaran, bahwa HOLONG MARNATUA2 itu, mengajarkan KITA utk Mengetahui :Memuaskan CONSUMERS ( Pembeli,Teman, Orang Tua, Famili dll ), apakah itu di bidang PEREKONOMIAN / BISNIS, atau PERSAHABATAN, bukan tergantung dari BIAYA yg DIKELUARKAN , karena Biaya utk MINUM TUAK jauh LEBIH KECIL di bandingkan dengan Biaya MAKAN MIE dan BABI KECAP, Tetapi MARGINAL UTILITY nya JAUH LEBIH BESAR, yg perlu KITA tahu / MENGERTI akan KEBUTUHAN / KEBIASAAN CONSUMERS. Sai Anggiat Ma SONANG HO AMANG & INANG di JOLO / LAMBUNG Ni TUHAN i, di SURGO HASONANGAN i Pekanbaru 10 May 2009.Drs Dewasa SITOHANG & Adelina Hutabarat ( Ompu Ni SEBIRA )

How Beautiful It is.......

2008-12-05T08:58:00.000-08:00

I am asking for your Pity,

Take Care for Me,

Do not kill or Eliminate Me

2008 CHRISTMAS SEASON

2008-12-05T07:08:00.000-08:00

May Grace, Joyfull CHRISTMAS be with US

My Family Drs Dewasa SITOHANG

conveys to

You ALL :

MERRY CHRISTMAS

Dec 25-26, 2008

and

HAPPY NEW YEAR

Jan 01, 2009.

Dont Forget to :

" Deal with others

Like You want

to be Dealt With "

The City where I want to go

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Beatiful see sight

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Taking a Trip to Singapore on Dec 22, 2005

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All of my three childreen named :
1. AGUSTINA Vince Sultana SITOHANG ( 2nd f/ left )
2. Sutan CHANDRA Dosma SITOHANG (1st f/left )
3. LARRYVO Handrian Bounty SITOHANG (5th f/left)
came back from Bandung to Rumbai, Pekan Baru, Riau for Christmas Season in 2005, then We all went to Singapore taking a trip " Jalan - Jalan " as to motivate them in achieving good results of studying in UNPAD & ITB, and also make them remembering their childhood, because They have ever gone there several times when Elementary, Junior, and Senior high schooling periods.

We lived in PEKANBARU after I had married with my Wife named ADELINA HUTABARAT who was born in PULAU SAMBU, a small island next to SINGAPORE; so, Travelling to Singapore for her like going back to "PULANG KAMPOENG ". She always felt happy & exciting when the Ferry were crossing by the Island.
We started the life in Pekanbaru with hoping, asking , praying to GOD Assistance & Guidance for the shake of my Family, because I am an ordinary person who doesn't have enough skill & knowledge to bear a heavy daily Load of living Cost. Actually, If You believe in GOD, HE will lead you to survive. No kinds of Problems You have & face, Let GOD help you finding the symptons How to handle & eliminate. My Wife & I are in doubt How to bring up my childreen, sending them to School or University. We worked to gether such as to sending them to private Courses starting from 1st grade of Elementary thru 3rd grade of Senior high School. My wife has a big effort to teach or educate my childreen becoming hard & smart learners, they didn't care about childhood needs as to playing with their Friends. My childreen are accustomed to read " COMIC Books " , they do like reading such even though They were student, till Now. My Wife & I always pray to GOD for the happiness & Success of my 3 childreen. The eldest Child, Agustina, who married with " HELA " Ramses J Tamba , has a pretty lady Baby named SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTY born on Oct 22, 2008. In BATAK Culture, someone was born & got the name during Baptism e. g My name is DEWASA SITOHANG, The name becomes " AMANI AGUSTINA " as a nick Name for the Parents, My Name will be changed to be " OMPU NI SI SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTY " due to the birth of my grand lady ( My daughter child f/ AGUSTINA).The Nick Name will be re changed to be " OMPU NI ( with out SI ) If my son CHANDRA has a baby ...says..His Baby name is....supposed to be ...CHOVRY, My Name " OMPU NI SI SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTI " will be changed to " OMPU NI CHOVRY...( without SI...); so, OMPU NISI or with out SI....in BATAK is called GRAND FATHER or GRAND MOTHER in English.
I don't know How to say.... How big of Happiness that My Wife & I have felt & got due to the birth of our beloved grand Lady called SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTI.
REVAGDA is like an accronym given by my Wife & Me :
R ==> Ramses ( her Father Name )
E ==> En ( And )
V ==> Vince
AG ==> AGustina
D ==> Dewasa
A ==> Adelina.
So, Her name is alike ACCRONYM or combination of her Parents Names with her Grand Mother & Father.

My Wife & I have felt so exiciting..Happiness...and also got additional fulfillness in the needs of GOD Blessing.
Thanks GOD for everything I have had so far....You may add more....I believe that GOD knows what My Wife & I want.........

I Love You All such ....Like How You love Me.
Jakarta. 06 Nov 2008.
Drs Dewasa Sitohang & Adelina Hutabarat..( 15 / 6 )
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" M A S I PA S A N G A P A N " Mutual Respect & Honoring

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Senin, 2008 November 03
" M A S I PA S A N G A P A N " Mutual Respect & Honoring
Di Adat BATAK , ada DALIHAN NATOLU :

1. SOMBA Mar HULA2...<>

2. MANAT Mar DONGAN SABUTUHA....<>

3. ELEK Mar BORU....<>

Dari Dalihan Na Tolu ini, Ada Kesimpulan :Setiap Orang ( Individu ) Wong BATAK akan mempunyai 3 Posisi ( Kedudukan ) secara bergantian, tergantung siapa / MARGA yang punya ( OWNER ) dari ULAON ( Pesta ) untuk MASIPASANGAPAN ( Saling MENGHORMATI ...Mutual Respect...Mutual Honoring).

Setiap Orang / Individu pernah Jadi :

Ø Hula2 ( TULANG).....Mangalean Pasu2, sebenarnya Pasu2 asal nya dari TUHAN.

Ø Dongan Sabutuha ( Se MARGA )... Dongan Masisungkunan / Mewakili , Manolopi..dst

Ø Boru ( Mengikuti MARGA ISTRI / MAMA / OMPUNG BORU ..dst ). Mangurupi Materil & Immateril ( GOGO... seperti membantu HULA2 utk mengurusi keperluan Pesta dari Persiapan , Kerjaan di hari ” H ” nya, sampai selesai ...Pokok nya BORU ini yang paling sibuk KERJA....Juga MANUMPAKI....)

Yang menjadi sungkun2 ( Pertanyaan ), Bagaimana DALIHAN NATOLU ini bisa Jadi ADA ?Di Suku BATAK ada Pembahagian TUGAS yang Jelas, Secara ber ganti2 an mempunyai TUGAS Sendiri, Sehingga se Seorang itu TIDAK TERUS SETIAP SA’AT Menjadi HULA2, DONGAN SABUTUHA, atau BORU, artinya Job Description nya ber beda2 sesuai dgn Posisinya di setiap Pesta ( Ulaon ), dan...

...Sungguh Teratur / Tertib.........TABO nai....ate Gabe Halak BATAK!!!

Memang Trias Politika ada :

Ø Excecutive

Ø Judicative

Ø Legislative

Tetapi Ndak pernah Job Description nya Ber ganti2 an, dikaitkan dengan Ulaon / Tugas / Rapat yang di adakan, .... Molo Nungnga BOSS... Jadi...BOSS lah TERUSSSSSSSS...., Sehingga terjadi KESOMBONGAN atau Penyimpangan / Penyalah gunaan TUGAS....didok ....AHU do mangatur NEGARA on...... ISE ..IBANA ..HUROHA ??Karena Menurut MEREKA??...Benar.....( seperti yang anda Maksud). Terjadilah Pemaksaan Kehendak....Korupsi....KKN......Family sesudah jadi Orang Besar ( Ber Family Gara2... Duit.. Project..lah...dll ).

Akhinya ...Ndang MASIPASANGAPAN be.

MASIPASANGAPAN Di Negara disebut Semua Orang ( Individu ) Mempunya Hak yg Sama ( Equal Rights )... sekarang istilah Keeren nya ...HAM..., Tetapi Kenyataan .. ndak Tahulah. Kalau dari satu Golongan kena Tindas ... HAM... Maju...Mudah2an HAM adil utk membela Hak Azasi Manusia. Pernah Saya lihat di TV, se orang Polisi ditendang sama Orang yg DEMO... Apakah ...HAM.. Menbela Hak dari Polisi tsb ??

.......Saya ndak tahu jelas lanjutan nya.....( Kalau ada yg sudah Tahu, Tolong di ...share ..lah )

MASIPASANGAPAN di Faham KOMUNIS, Berdiri sama Tinggi Duduk Sama Rendah... Apa ya..a..a??

Mana Mungkin sama Tinggi , Orang yg Tinggi.. dengan... yg Rendah??

...Jujur saja.. tujuan nya sama dgn Theory BOURJUISYang KAYA sama / berkawan dgn Golongan dgn yg KAYA, yg MISKIN sama / berkawan dgn Golongan dgn yg MISKIN.

Sarupa mai tu / sama Hal nya dgn PARJUJI ( Penjudi ):

>>Molo Monang, sude Mandok....... LAE..E..E.. No 1....JAGO an ..... ( Si TOLOPI na Monang )

>>Molo Talu, Sude mandok .....LAE...LAE..E...E..E Juga .....tetapi…LAE .E..E... No 20 ...huruf abjad …yang ke 20..hon ..... ( Mambursikkon Natalu )

Ido prinsip ni Paham ni songon on, jala memang GODANG kenyataan do i di KEHIDUPAN se hari2 (.... ndang Sude...tahe ) .

Di Agama juga disebut :MASIPASANGAPAN.........Hormatilah Sesama MU seperti Diri Mu Sendiri.

Alai di partegas hon do jala dipasingot do di AGAMA,
molo PASANGAPHON NATUA-TUANTA....................... ( NATORAS..di artikan ORANG TUA Kita...Apakah bisa juga yang artinya YANG LEBIH TUA....Saya kurang tahu...)

Di Patik Palimahon .......Ingkon Pasangapon Mu do Na TORAS Mu, Asa Mar TUA Ho..........Di tano nanilehon i TUHAN DEBATA di Ho.

Sesudah PASANGAP hon ( Menghormati ) ORANG TUA & TUHAN Kita..Pasti dapat PASU2. ( Berkat & Rezeki).....................

Ada lagi pertanyaan ... Sebenarnya DIMANA tempat tanah( KOTA ) yg di berikan /nanilehon ni TUHAN DEBATA di Ho..........

Tano tsb......Apakah Tano KOTA Hatubuan (Kampung Halaman tempat dilahirkan), atau Tano Pangarantoan ( Tempat Merantau ).... TANO atau KOTA yg Mana.... ? Di pacocok ma tu diri Pribadi masing2.. Jala direnungkan.. Apakah tingkat kebenaran masing2 mendekati 100%. ..... Bagaimana Tingkat ...........BOHA do KEBERHASILAN KEHIDUPAN ku....???

Di bawah ini ada rumus Mathematic ...........sebagai ILLUSTRASI

Y = f (X)

Dimana :

Y di assumsikan sebagai.... è Nasib / Rezeki / Kesehatan... KEBERHASILAN....
f di assumsikan sebagai ......è faktor pengali ( correction Factor )
X di assumsikan sebagai .... è utk berbagai macam Hal ( TIDAK SAMA UTK semua INDIVIDU )

......X....Bisa itu mulai dari:

X1..adalah tempat lahir.....
X2 ..adalah Tamatan Sekolah Apa & darimana...
X3 adalah Kerja dimana.....
X4..adalah keturunan siapa..........
X5 Factor pernah atau tidak ME MA'AF kan..........dst ..........dst................................................
X6, X7, X8.......sampai....XN.…..ber macam2 ... isi sendirilah.....renungkanlah .....apa betul. (INGAT lah SEMUA Factor "X" Mu ).

Jadi Factor ME MA’AF kan itu sangat mempengaruhi Juga di di tambah Factor " X " yg lain MASIPASANGAPAN <>

Sesudah di evaluasi... Ya Benar... Tingkat KEHIDUPAN & KEBERHASILAN ku ............SUKSES...Lanjutannya.... Apakah Anda sudah BERTERIMAKASIH ( Memberi .Zakat / Persembahan/Bantuan) kepada Sesama Mu ...atau kepada TUHAN....... Aha do Hulehon tu NATUA2 KU, tu NAMANOGU Ahu ( Si Patudu Dalan )???

SILAHKAN...Pendapat ANDA Mengenai : MASIPASANGAPAN...PASANGAPHON....KEBERHASILAN.. MANDAPOT PASU2..Pls, Your COMMENTS… FEED BACK….ARGUMENTS….DIRECTIONS…ADVICES.

Sincerely YOURS…HORAS…:

Drs Dewasa SITOHANG & Adelina Hutabarat .

Jakarta, 03 Nov 2008.

***** Drs Dewasa SITOHANG ***** Ompu Ni SEBIRA